No contact orders and friendships

[patchouli]

Ya'll know that My Mr is once again incarcerated and that there is a no contact order. This is terribly difficult, at best. What makes it even harder--if thats possible-- is that the nco is affecting the relationships between dear friends of mine and myself. A couple of friends are writing him and accepting his calls. I'm fine with that, everybody needs somebody and I'm glad they're keeping in touch with him.

But, it scares the living daylights out of me that they'll discuss things they shouldn't.....ME. In conversations, they want to tell me they've written, he's written, he's called etc etc etc. I find myself telling them that I don't want to hear it (but I really do!), that I can't hear it, that I can't risk the perception of "third party contact."

What I want right now is to finish up my probation, quietly.....with no hassles or legal problems. Will My Mr & I survive the nco and another (long, long) bid? I don't know. I'm very angry and I'm very hurt, for reasons I won't go into here. I do know that once the nco is over, I will not abandon him. It is what it is.

Its a fine line, I know, but how can I keep my friendships intact while not violating the no-contact?

[juss me6]

just tell them you cant talk about him or pass messages through them you dont wanna risk getting him or you in trouble you want to just get through the time of the nco and then get through his bid with him.

[misslovinghim2]

Sorry to hear that your MR. is back in Patch I remember when you posted about him coming home, that gave me a good feeling to look forward too. I hope everything works out & you two are reunited soon.