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Beelasoul · #26 05-14-2012, 08:19 PM

First, if you aren't comfortable or even the slightest bit hesitant about taking/sending them - don't.

Second, I need the details of what some of these pictures look like that y'all are sending and getting past mail inspections. As far as I knew pictures of that nature aren't allowed and could get recipients in trouble so please enlighten me so I can send some

Scotties_Girl21 · #27 05-14-2012, 08:22 PM

Damn I never even thought about staff and c/os seeing them lol. I'm glad I haven't sent any that "risky".

GuerosMama · #28 05-14-2012, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Beelasoul

First, if you aren't comfortable or even the slightest bit hesitant about taking/sending them - don't.

Second, I need the details of what some of these pictures look like that y'all are sending and getting past mail inspections. As far as I knew pictures of that nature aren't allowed and could get recipients in trouble so please enlighten me so I can send some

That depends on the facility. I have heard people say that they cant send anything more than being in booty shorts. At my man's facility you can send anything and everything as long as it doesnt include penetration. I would call and find out, or have him ask.

Rick's Girl Ont · #29 05-14-2012, 08:56 PM

I sent a few but they were tasteful boudoir photos. Just showed my bra. Nothing naked or tasteless. I'm sure the COs enjoy opening mail but they will get to your man. Like someone else said here, don't said anything you wouldn't want others seeing.

MISTYGJONI · #30 05-14-2012, 09:19 PM

IF HE WAS A GOOD boy then he would be getting the pleasure of having you in his arms. This is a time to build a relationship/union, with exploring and communicating thoughts feelings, and emotions, learning about one another, you know those things that they never had time for when he was on the outs? I refuse to talk about sex with my husband, there are a million and one other things that we need to share other then a sexual fantasy. We can do that when he gets home. But now is our time to build on what we love about each other, sex doesn't keep a man happy forever and I know it won't for me either. But it does leave us something to look forward to when he comes home. We share some but when we share that aspect of our lives it's wrapped in feelings and emotions not graphics and enticement. He should be grateful and feel blessed that you are with him and waiting for him.

missingaj7 · #31 05-15-2012, 08:33 AM

I sent my man some you can't see my face a lot in most of them cuz I took them in a mirror I trust that he would never let anything happen to them if I didn't trust I wouldnt of sent them he loved them !!!

thatwiz · #32 05-15-2012, 09:07 AM

My man had naked ones of me tucked away in his paperwork, but I am not shy and it never bothered me who looks at what. I even have had the person behind the counter of photo spots keep some of my pictures-these weren't even the naked ones-I saw extras under the counter. I am not bothered by it. It depends on you. Sex has always been a part of our relationship and we're over the 12 year mark of being together. Shoot, now he's out-he's got mad naked pictures on his cell phone. my man doesn't get tired of looking at me and while locked up those were very important to him.

Loubabygirl · #33 05-15-2012, 09:30 AM

I've sent my love ones that I'm sure the COs were like oh damn this one all up close and personal. That's their problem they have to see what I send my man lol. He loves them and I'll send whatever he wants being he can't have the real thing and hasn't in almost 10 years! Thankfully we only have 3 1/2 to go

desii · #34 05-16-2012, 08:23 PM

Alright so i followed your guys' advice about the pictures and took some classy, sexy ones that I didn't mind anyone seeing. Well he called me today and said he got them and LOVED them but he still asked for ones more up close and reeaaly personell he wouldn't drop it and continued to talk about how his birthday is coming up. Well I ended up agreeing to send them because I didn't want to waste the whole phone call arguing. I really don't want to send them. Im not sure why because im very far from shy! I just im not sure how I feel about printing off these pictures and sending them in the mail, but I feel like I have to know because i said I would. I need a pep talk or advice or soomeethhhiing! Please

tripsgirl · #35 05-16-2012, 08:25 PM

You can't get 'really' personal. What exactly did he mean by that?
What kind of pictures did you take?

Only do it if YOU feel comfortable, if not then he should be respectful of your decision.

Klewis · #36 05-16-2012, 08:29 PM

You don't have to do anything because you said you would. I am sure your man if you knew him before he got locked up said he would stay out of trouble but obviously that did not happen. If you are not comfortable don't do it. If he is demanding them don't do it. He should be happy with what he got. He is starting to sound like one of those that want to trade your photos. Approach this situation lightly and explain to him your not comfortable with that, if he cares about you he will accept that. My Fiance' wanted some of those pics and I told him I am not comfortable with all of that and he never pressed the issue again.

desii · #37 05-16-2012, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by tripsgirl

You can't get 'really' personal. What exactly did he mean by that?
What kind of pictures did you take?

Only do it if YOU feel comfortable, if not then he should be respectful of your decision.

Well at the prison he is in he can have pictures of anything besides penetration.
I just took some booty pictures and bra and panty pics.

tripsgirl · #38 05-16-2012, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by desii

Well at the prison he is in he can have pictures of anything besides penetration.
I just took some booty pictures and bra and panty pics.

Oh wow, that's crazy I didn't know they had prisons like that.
Honestly, I wouldn't go any further than that. Your pictures are viewed by CO's and you never know if someone would steal your pictures when he wasn't around. He should respect that you went that far.

My hubby just asked for 'bootie shorts' pictures so far. lol.
But I sent him a picture of me in the bubble bath with bubbles hiding my 'goodies.' Maybe you could do something like that?

desii · #39 05-16-2012, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Klewis

You don't have to do anything because you said you would. I am sure your man if you knew him before he got locked up said he would stay out of trouble but obviously that did not happen. If you are not comfortable don't do it. If he is demanding them don't do it. He should be happy with what he got. He is starting to sound like one of those that want to trade your photos. Approach this situation lightly and explain to him your not comfortable with that, if he cares about you he will accept that. My Fiance' wanted some of those pics and I told him I am not comfortable with all of that and he never pressed the issue again.

I dated him for a year before he got locked up, and I didn't even think about them trading pics! I really don't think he would do something like that but it still scares me. I had a friend who got his stuff stolen in jail so if it happens in jail no doubt it happens in prison. I hate wasting time on the phone arguing. I think maybe ill just have to write him a letter I always try to approach important things on the phone but I don't want to waste phone time arguing about this AGAIN! I'm just so sick of talking about this with him, he knows me so well he can guilt triip me so easily I hate it.

Klewis · #40 05-16-2012, 08:45 PM

Well if he knows he can guilt trip you, then just maybe you should take this time to learn how to stop letting him.

Mrs. Happy · #41 05-16-2012, 08:45 PM

You should tell him he needs to stop manipulating you into doing something you don't want to do! You don't have to do anything you don't want to do period!!! I really think you need to put your foot so what if he gets mad. If he loves you he'll get over it.

iLYD.R.E · #42 05-16-2012, 08:56 PM

i just recently sent my bby some and he doesnt even know there coming lol .. i can only imagine his face when he sees my pictures that he didnt even ask for

lesliew32 · #43 05-16-2012, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by desii

Well at the prison he is in he can have pictures of anything besides penetration.
I just took some booty pictures and bra and panty pics.

Wow that's crazy. I tried to send my man racy pictures and they were taken as contraband!

**LeBeau** · #44 05-16-2012, 09:03 PM

Tell him nagging will get him nowhere and keeping it up might mean you don't send anymore pics that show ANY skin.

Don't let him rag you into doing something you're not totally happy about doing.

juss me6 · #45 05-16-2012, 09:10 PM

if he respects you and hes a real man and you tell him no he should accept it.

countryzgirl · #46 05-16-2012, 11:26 PM

I don't dig being pressured about things like that. Not cool and not fun. If you're uncomfortable, don't do it. I suggest you tell him to stop disrespecting you - it's your body, so it is entirely your choice.

Jootje · #47 05-17-2012, 12:31 AM

He sounds like a little kid not getting his candy....yuch! I am sorry but do not put up with this behaviour. He got some sexy pictures and that should be enough. He is really taking the fun out of doing something for him if this is the result.

Forever&aDay · #48 05-17-2012, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by desii

Alright so i followed your guys' advice about the pictures and took some classy, sexy ones that I didn't mind anyone seeing. Well he called me today and said he got them and LOVED them but he still asked for ones more up close and reeaaly personell he wouldn't drop it and continued to talk about how his birthday is coming up. Well I ended up agreeing to send them because I didn't want to waste the whole phone call arguing. I really don't want to send them. Im not sure why because im very far from shy! I just im not sure how I feel about printing off these pictures and sending them in the mail, but I feel like I have to know because i said I would. I need a pep talk or advice or soomeethhhiing! Please

I understand your hesitation and I have the same issue. I have a sexy suggestion. Why not make it a role play shoot and wear a mask or something. It gives you a bit of anonymity and still gives him his close ups. Add a steamy letter setting the mood. Good Luck

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queenlynch · #49 05-17-2012, 05:54 AM

IMO, this has gone beyond how should she take them. It is now in the house of why the hell should she be contemplating going against her better judgement, AGAIN, for someone clearly unappreciative. It doesn't matter if you can't see her face or if she is fully exposed, she knows those pictures would be out there and that is the biggest issue.
To the OP. my man cannot get pics that show anything too "personal", basically "it" has to be covered up. When he asked me for pics the first time I told him I wouldn't send those kids of pics, but as the trust level increased so did the level of skin. Once I had sent a few (dozen, lol) I started to notice the Walgreens photo boy looking at me strange. I told him I didn't have a problem with COs seeing them because they see so many, but that little pimply kid creeped me out and I wasn't gonna send them like that anymore. You could see the steam coming off my mans head he was thinking about how to get those pics to me without Sir Pimply getting in the way. We worked it out, and for his patience and respect for my wishes the pics got better and better. My man earned the best pics I could give him, and if I show more I would. This is all his, and I trust him to take care of it, but we would not be here if my husband was acting like your guy. Hold him to a standard you hold your self at, and lay down the law about the pics. Good luck, girl.