He got mad because I said if I were the 1 in prison, he'd be out having sex

[bonnie_lee]

Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

So me and my bf had the "if the shoe were on the other foot" convo this morning and I said I think if I were in prison and it was turned around you would write me and everything but you would probly be out having sex with girls and he got really mad! Like really mad! He was like how could you say that? No I wouldn't? And I explained the reason I thought that was because I felt men don't attatch a lot of emotion to sex and it would be easier for him to cheat. Well he didn't like that. Then he said "that makes me feel like if you think I'd do that then you would be out doing the same thing" totally turned it around on me! Ugh, it made our convo end on a kinda bad note but at the end he said I love you and I trust you until you give me a reason not to. So I kinda feel better about it. But I almost wish I woulda kept my big mouth shut all together.

Ouch. Yeeeeah, that was a conversation that was destined to lead to an arguement. I don't know how your tone was during this and that could make a lot of difference. If you were saying it kind of jokingly, that's one thing, but if you really meant it I can see why he got all riled up. It's a little unfair of you to think that just because he's a man he would run around on you if you were in his shoes. That's kinda stereotyping him, and honestly prison wives and girlfriends tend to be stereotyped to run around on their man in the pen. I'm not at all saying that you do that, I'm just pointing out why the comment was a little below the belt. Now, if he's cheated on you in the past, then you have more room to say something like that. But, at the same time, if he did and you still choose to be with him, it doesn't help your relationship recover by bringing up what you've chosen to forgive. Doesn't mean you absolutely have to forget it, but if you keep bringing it up and holding it against him, you'll both end up resenting eachother. But I don't know if that's your situation. I would feel the need to apologize personally, but you know how to handle your relationship better then any of us.