Daughter getting out tomorrow

[brookesmom]

My daughter is getting out of prison tomorrow. She has court in the morning and her probation office and the judges office said she would be released straight from court so bring her some clothes. I'm so nervous!!! We have been drama free for almost a year and I so dread that part. When I visited her last Sunday at prison she talked about calling her old friends. I couldn't believe that!!! She has no friends that aren't drug addicts!!! I'm really glad she is getting out and I REALLY thought she had changed but after that conversation I'm not so sure. Has anyone experienced this? I need advice!! Please keep us in your prayers!!

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[ILovehim1]

She needs to do something to keep her busy when she is out so she won't have time to hang with her old friends. She either needs to get a job asap or go to school. Maybe both? But she would meet other people that way. I don't think it is a good idea for her to hang with her old friends...

[bluebella]

My son had some rules on parole, I had more. He made it through parole, but by the time it was done he had enough to make anybody use if that was how one was going to handle things. He want to meeting, but had a GF who used.

I chose many years ago to take another path, using only took from my life. It is not a smart or stupid thing. It is not a strong or weak decision, I just had enough. My son moved on from my house, and was out 9 months, he is in now for 5 years. I could not make him see there was another way for him, this choice was not going to work.

Your house your rules, she sounds like she is going to walk all over rules. Don't be thinking the furture is bleak, just hold steady to your expectations, know she is in charge of her furture and you have rights to what and who is on your side of your locked door.

I had a minor daughter who I locked out of my house. I reported her missing for the 110 time. When she came to the door wanting anything the answer was "you know where to go and what to do, here is the phone" and handed her the phone (on the other side of the door) if she needed wanted to call for a ride to where she had been in inpatient, out patient. She is a productive member of society today.

Have one option for her in your home and many rules, DO NOT let her cross one line!! If she needs more schooling, she will get it and not from you. Send her out into the world if that is her choice to not conduct her self in a proper manner in your home. Be strong and kind, put her in God's hands and we will all say prayers for a posative furture for her and your family.

[sleepless in Tu]

The probation office is going to tell her a number of things.Most importantly "No contact with people having felonies,drug problems,and people from your past that helped to land you in this situation" Your daughter might think she has plans but truthfully she doesn't.Probation is going to keep her busy.And please be good to yourself, don't let her think for a moment that she's calling the shots.Remember too we are here to help!

[brookesmom]

Thanks for the advice. I have signed her up to help at a homeless shelter starting next Monday. She said she would do it for a week but if she didn't like it she would quit. I even found her a house to rent but because they don't allow dogs inside she said no. So I give up. I turn it over to God but still try to have a hand in it. Im learning to do better though. we have permanent custody of her baby who is 20 months old. We have had him since he was born. I also worry about. We have a set visitation schedule. I haven't followed it until she would call and say she was coming to see him then never show up. I am going to start with the schedule visitation and maybe if she sees I'm not giving into her or going to be an enabler. Just maybe she will stand on her own two feet and stay clean.

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[Terihe]

I am sorry you are feeling this. May God help her to travel the right path!

[asmom]

I'm so sorry for you feeling this way. Such bittersweet emotions. I pray that she's willing to change her ways and walk the right path. Sending you hugs and prayers.

[1bird2]

Wow, this is really heavy stuff....I'd have to say a job for God! Stand your ground, be strong and pray! She knows exactly what she needs to do to stay free....and productive. As always, it is her choice. You can certainly be a supporter without being an enabler....and God bless you for raising her child.
I am praying for you and yours....that she makes the choice to follow the path that leads to a success life.
Love and prayers,
XXOO

[brookesmom]

My daughter got out a week after her court date. The judge gave her 3 more years probation, job, CR program and 60 hours cs. Has she done any? Just saw her PO a week later and that's been it. She has some of the same old thug friends and also found quite a few new ones!!! I'm a lucky lucky mother!!! It really hurts at the many tears I've shed over this entire 10 months and she's right back at it. She just hadn't got caught yet!! Thanks to everyone for the many thought and prayers. Please keep them coming!!! Thanks to all of you!!

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[Indymom12]

I keep praying for you. Bless your heart. It took about 7 years for Rach to finally start turning around. She started on her dowhill spiral when she was 13 and will be 21 on the 22nd of July.Many (((hugs))) coming your way. Keep in touch.
Nancy