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fuentes1609 · #1 05-16-2012, 11:50 PM

My husbend is in texas and im up here in NC idk what to do anymore without him. he was transfered 2 months ago and it went from talking to him every night to i havent heard his voice in 2 months. he writes at least 3 times a week and says when he gets out hes going to come up here to be with me and our daughter but idk i just keep having this thought what if he doesnt come through. in his letters he keeps re asuring me that hes comming but im just so confused and dont know what to do. I miscarried jan 30 and then he got locked up feb 13. its just so hard to go from being together 24/7 to never. I was going to see him at every visitation but now that im in NC i cant even go visit him anymore. I want to tell him everything that im feeling but i dont want him to know how much im stugaling out here. i just dont know what to think or do or anything anymore i feel lost without him.......

Scotties_Girl21 · #2 05-17-2012, 04:39 AM

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Originally Posted by fuentes1609

My husbend is in texas and im up here in NC idk what to do anymore without him. he was transfered 2 months ago and it went from talking to him every night to i havent heard his voice in 2 months. he writes at least 3 times a week and says when he gets out hes going to come up here to be with me and our daughter but idk i just keep having this thought what if he doesnt come through. in his letters he keeps re asuring me that hes comming but im just so confused and dont know what to do. I miscarried jan 30 and then he got locked up feb 13. its just so hard to go from being together 24/7 to never. I was going to see him at every visitation but now that im in NC i cant even go visit him anymore. I want to tell him everything that im feeling but i dont want him to know how much im stugaling out here. i just dont know what to think or do or anything anymore i feel lost without him.......

First of all I'm sorry about the loss of your child, I'm in NC too and I know it's a long way from Texas and this must be very hard for you. If you believe he is sincere then I wouldn't worry about it. There's no way to tell the future so I would spend time working on the relationship and try not to worry unless you see any red flags, or direct indications he's not being sincere. This journeys a tough one. Sending thoughts and prayers to you and your daughter, try and stay positive. If you ever need to talk pm me anytime. :goodluck:

Greek_Koukla · #3 05-17-2012, 07:34 AM

Hi Fuentes ~ you'll find a lot of us here who's loved one is in another state as them. I'm in Nevada and my loved one is in NC. As said above - love knows no boundaries ~ I know you can make this work, been with mine for 8 yrs now and I only get to visit one time a year in June or July due to expenses but I feel me and him are stronger then ever right now. Keep that communication open with him ~ communication is key!

I'm sorry for the loss of your baby by the way.

fuentes1609 · #4 05-17-2012, 08:08 PM

thank yall so much. I know it will work out and be okay and i think everything truely happens for a reason we might not know the reason right now but at some point we will and i know with how hard all of this is i know that this has only made our relationship 100X stronger and i know that we will make it through. thank both of yall again for the kind words. im new to this whole thing so im just trying a day at a time.

myonlylove95 · #5 05-17-2012, 08:13 PM

I too am in NC and my husband is in Kentucky. If your marriage is strong then you should have no worries. He's going to want to be with you and your daughter no matter where you are. Talk it over with him and see where he stands on it and what your future plans should be.

InmateLover67 · #6 05-17-2012, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by fuentes1609

My husbend is in texas and im up here in NC idk what to do anymore without him. he was transfered 2 months ago and it went from talking to him every night to i havent heard his voice in 2 months. he writes at least 3 times a week and says when he gets out hes going to come up here to be with me and our daughter but idk i just keep having this thought what if he doesnt come through. in his letters he keeps re asuring me that hes comming but im just so confused and dont know what to do. I miscarried jan 30 and then he got locked up feb 13. its just so hard to go from being together 24/7 to never. I was going to see him at every visitation but now that im in NC i cant even go visit him anymore. I want to tell him everything that im feeling but i dont want him to know how much im stugaling out here. i just dont know what to think or do or anything anymore i feel lost without him.......

Sorry your not able to have the connection you had before, but you can get through this, if your relationship is solid. Why would you not share with him how you are feeling? Communication is one of the key components to a healthy relationship. No, I am sure he does not want to hear that your life is so screwed up, now that he is gone. He wants to know that you can make it, and are strong and confident in this journey.

Hun, you need to become independent, just in case things don't work out. I am not saying that to be rude, but women MUST take care of themselves as if they have nobody else, because our relationships are not a guarentee and becoming "lost" without a man is dangerous, in my opinion.

It is one thing to love and miss them, but to be lost without them, we must pick our big-girl panties up and keep moving forward with OUR future.

Good luck!

Peace~