I think it's over!!

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

So my bf/babydaddy last wrote me on 5/01 I sent him $150 to send the letter off I got the letter n he's never wrote me back I've sent him a letter and pics of him and I and pics of our 6 kids he never responded back...he's in confinement so I know he has nothin better to do than to write/sleep...he cnt order any food or snacks while he's in there only writing utensils or paper envelope n stamps bt yet he's spending money from his acct...I never even got a happy mothers day letter or a thank u for the money letter...just nothin!! So I wrote a letter letting him know I know that I know about the money being spent bt yet im not receiving any letters bt somebody else is so I pretty much ended things between us...now my question is do u think I overreacted??...oh and I know he's alive and well because I talk to his classification officer regularly about his status and she said he's not in the ”hospital” in there and that he is getting out the box on June 6th...I'm lost for words I dnt know wut to think...please give me some advice or words of encouragement thank you in advance

[MissVal1920]

Can you go visit? Its seems odd that he would just stop cold with the Mother of his six children, unless there were signs from before. As Im sure you know, it could be so many things that could have happened even though he's not in the hospital and alive. If you are able to, I would go visit, talk to him face to face and then you can make a solid determination as to whats going on.

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by Eddiesoon2bwife

So my bf/babydaddy last wrote me on 5/01 I sent him $150 to send the letter off I got the letter n he's never wrote me back I've sent him a letter and pics of him and I and pics of our 6 kids he never responded back...he's in confinement so I know he has nothin better to do than to write/sleep...he cnt order any food or snacks while he's in there only writing utensils or paper envelope n stamps bt yet he's spending money from his acct...I never even got a happy mothers day letter or a thank u for the money letter...just nothin!! So I wrote a letter letting him know I know that I know about the money being spent bt yet im not receiving any letters bt somebody else is so I pretty much ended things between us...now my question is do u think I overreacted??...oh and I know he's alive and well because I talk to his classification officer regularly about his status and she said he's not in the ”hospital” in there and that he is getting out the box on June 6th...I'm lost for words I dnt know wut to think...please give me some advice or words of encouragement thank you in advance

Sounds like you have been duped....sorry about that.

Hun, take a big deep breath and begin the process of moving on, I know that is not what you want to hear, but you need to take care of yourself.

It does not sound as though this guy really gives a crap about you, or he would be in touch.

I hope you are able to have some closure and move beyond this with a heart that reminds you, you deserve happiness.

Peace~

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

I am able to go visit bt after he gets out the box...there were no signs at all he'd write me and call me everyday up until he went in the box...I'm sooo confused because that's not like him...bt my thing is he's ordering paper and other things so he has to be writing somebody just not me...idk maybe im goin crazy

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by InmateLover67

Sounds like you have been duped....sorry about that.

Hun, take a big deep breath and begin the process of moving on, I know that is not what you want to hear, but you need to take care of yourself.

It does not sound as though this guy really gives a crap about you, or he would be in touch.

I hope you are able to have some closure and move beyond this with a heart that reminds you, you deserve happiness.

Peace~

And honestly that is all I want...closure...I'm not mad if he's writing someone else I'm mad at the fact that u had someone call me to tell me u need money to write n for hygiene products bt u never do n u just take my money knowing I have these 6 kids to care for...ugh

[hisbabyny]

maybe it has something to do with being in confinement' maybe he has the writting supplies but hasnt used them yet' cause he is too stressed to write? i dont know cause every one's man is different. how long have you been together? how often did you get letters before? my man told me He would never just stop communicating with me!! that if i didnt hear from him that something is wrong that is out of HIS control' like the phones not working or they shut them off for security sometimes' or the computers sometimes is down. we dont write to many regular letters seeing as we do the email all day every day' but i think you have to get more info? this is your baby's father so it dont make sense that all of a sudden you wouldnt hear from him. unless he has shown you that he is undependable in the past?? i hope you hear from him soon either way.

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by hisbabyny

maybe it has something to do with being in confinement' maybe he has the writting supplies but hasnt used them yet' cause he is too stressed to write? i dont know cause every one's man is different. how long have you been together? how often did you get letters before? my man told me He would never just stop communicating with me!! that if i didnt hear from him that something is wrong that is out of HIS control' like the phones not working or they shut them off for security sometimes' or the computers sometimes is down. we dont write to many regular letters seeing as we do the email all day every day' but i think you have to get more info? this is your baby's father so it dont make sense that all of a sudden you wouldnt hear from him. unless he has shown you that he is undependable in the past?? i hope you hear from him soon either way.

We dnt usually write because when he's not in confinement we luterally talk like 10 times a day bt he's been confinement only one other time since he's been in and he wrote me about 3 times thats cuz he was only in there for 2 weeks...he's always been there for me and yhe kids and we have a really good communication thats why I'm lost as to why he hasn't written me back yet...bt my thing is he has ordered twice since he's been in the box and I haven't received not one letter not even for mothers day...well I did receive one bt he had already wrote the letter bt,was waiting for money to send it off and I haven't heard from him since...I just dont know or understand what's going in with him bt hopefully when he receives my letter it will make him write back if not then I have no choice bt to move on...we've been together for 10 years

[MissVal1920]

Originally Posted by Eddiesoon2bwife

We dnt usually write because when he's not in confinement we luterally talk like 10 times a day bt he's been confinement only one other time since he's been in and he wrote me about 3 times thats cuz he was only in there for 2 weeks...he's always been there for me and yhe kids and we have a really good communication thats why I'm lost as to why he hasn't written me back yet...bt my thing is he has ordered twice since he's been in the box and I haven't received not one letter not even for mothers day...well I did receive one bt he had already wrote the letter bt,was waiting for money to send it off and I haven't heard from him since...I just dont know or understand what's going in with him bt hopefully when he receives my letter it will make him write back if not then I have no choice bt to move on...we've been together for 10 years

I don't know, maybe I'm buggin but I just don't see how he could just cut you off like that especially since you've had good communication and have such a history. It just doesn't sound right and If he is getting out the box soon, I would just hold on and go see whats up for myself.

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by MissVal1920

I don't know, maybe I'm buggin but I just don't see how he could just cut you off like that especially since you've had good communication and have such a history. It just doesn't sound right and If he is getting out the box soon, I would just hold on and go see whats up for myself.

Yea he's getting out June 6th...I guess I really have no choice bt to do just that...it's just driving me crazy not knowing wuts going on bt thnx for ur advice I appreciate it

[shaunna]

Is there a chance there might be a mail hold up? To just drop off the face of the earth like that is really strange.. Hope you hear from him soon even if it is just to get closure.. I know it's hard but try not to think worst case scenario

[hisbabygurl2014]

did u know him before he was locked up? that just seems strange to me...hmm i hope he finally lets you know whats up.

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by shaunna

Is there a chance there might be a mail hold up? To just drop off the face of the earth like that is really strange.. Hope you hear from him soon even if it is just to get closure.. I know it's hard but try not to think worst case scenario

Yea I'm just waiting...bt hopefully it's soon!! Thank you

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by hisbabygurl2014

did u know him before he was locked up? that just seems strange to me...hmm i hope he finally lets you know whats up.

Yes we have 6 kids together.and we've been together for 10 years...I'm waiting bt my patience is getting low bt thank you

[SexyChef1]

Well I tell you this when Ole Man was in the "box" he would write and write and write and it took me a almost 45 days to get his letters . they held them. soooo before you have a full out panic attack wait it out. He will write honey trust me Ive been doing this a long time

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by SexyChef1

Well I tell you this when Ole Man was in the "box" he would write and write and write and it took me a almost 45 days to get his letters . they held them. soooo before you have a full out panic attack wait it out. He will write honey trust me Ive been doing this a long time

Yea I just got a letter yesterday that was dated 05/14...I feel bad cuz I sent him 2 really nasty letters that he should be getting no later than Tuesday...ugh idk wut to say...bt thank you

[MRS.GRIFFIN]

Sorry to hear that, stay prayful. Because we never know whats all the crazii things that go on in there. Im praying for both of yall

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by MRS.GRIFFIN

Sorry to hear that, stay prayful. Because we never know whats all the crazii things that go on in there. Im praying for both of yall

Yes I definitely have to...thank u

[Sheryl P.]

They do take forever to let the guys in "the box" get their mail.
To make matters worse,the mail to us is slow also.
Just write andlet himknowhow long it took to get a letter and that you did finally hear from him.Tellhim you regret jumping to conclusions and will see him when he is not in so much trouble.Go see him as soon as you can,nothing like seeing you to remind him that he loves you and has good reson to stay OUT of trouble.

[Eddiesoon2bwife]

Originally Posted by Sheryl P.

They do take forever to let the guys in "the box" get their mail.
To make matters worse,the mail to us is slow also.
Just write andlet himknowhow long it took to get a letter and that you did finally hear from him.Tellhim you regret jumping to conclusions and will see him when he is not in so much trouble.Go see him as soon as you can,nothing like seeing you to remind him that he loves you and has good reson to stay OUT of trouble.

Aww...thank u for ur advice I truly needed that )

[SexyChef1]

Hehehehe shame on you Eddie now u got some "splaining" to do when he gets his nasty letter. Remember most of us ole birds have been thru it and have an answer.

[canadiangirl098]

i am mad at someone too havent heard nothing since he moved to new jail april 17 and he sent me new address and i found out he can send 2 letters per week for free and i felt like writing to him yesterday but didnt because i dont want to flip out on him..im glad you finally got a letter

[~Christina~]

Originally Posted by Eddiesoon2bwife

Yes we have 6 kids together.and we've been together for 10 years...I'm waiting bt my patience is getting low bt thank you

(woops..i quoted the wrong post from you, i meant to quote the one telling us you got a letter finally.)


no worries.. just say to him "well, what would YOU have thought?"

btw...is the box the same thing as the shu?

[LocklearLove]

Originally Posted by Sheryl P.

They do take forever to let the guys in "the box" get their mail.
To make matters worse,the mail to us is slow also.
Just write and let him know how long it took to get a letter and that you did finally hear from him.Tell him you regret jumping to conclusions and will see him when he is not in so much trouble.Go see him as soon as you can,nothing like seeing you to remind him that he loves you and has good reason to stay OUT of trouble.

I agree with Sheryl...but I too freak out when I dont get my mail..I think the worst, and write and say things I regret and run to the mailbox the next morning and pull out my B letter before the mailman comes and send the calm downed one, I'd rewrite during the night..lol...And he to has never given me a reason to question his love for me...and us..but I WANT MY MAIL..

[LocklearLove]

Originally Posted by SexyChef1

Hehehehe shame on you Eddie now u got some "splaining" to do when he gets his nasty letter. Remember most of us ole birds have been thru it and have an answer.

Love this comment!!
I'm one of them ole birds, yet sometimes I think Im a young birdie and get impatient n bow up, and forget that i probably already did know the answer(his version, BABEEE, I DID SEND YOUR MAIL, mine..OHH LORDY, mail dont run on SUNDAYS, HEHE) ..You'd think after all these yrs, I'd have more patience, but with days to go....ummm...WTH is patience?