He's acting funny after I told him I check out Prison Talk!!

[emtjen]

My lovey thinks it is wonderful, he said that no one has ever loved him enough to want to get information and understand the ins and outs of incarceration. He also loves that I have a support system and friends that are going through what I am.

[hisbbgirl]

Originally Posted by SetHimFree

My man told me not to spend so much time on PTO bc it makes my mind play games. He said just cuz other men (inmates) cheat, lie and play games with their ladies doesnt mean all of them do it. We do discuss some of the topics together, kinda like 20 questions. He asks what all is on PTO...like is it all states & countries...updates...etc. He has been locked up 12 yrs and is fascinated by all the new stuff. He just doesnt want me getting depressed or down from others doubts & fears. If that makes sense.
I dunno why your man would be acting funny...unless he has other penpals on here...or maybe he dont want you getting mixed emotions from others. Just be honest with him and he will do the same.

Yeah he told me that he does not want me getting any ideas Nd stuff but I have a weird feeling. Us woman know when somerhings not on point with our man.. I will talk to him again well write him he's in the hole ;( now but I will definitely let you girls know what is happening thanks so much girls

[dixiebelle1973]

I don't know your situation, but as for me I've learned to at least pay heed to my instincts enough to see what's up.

[hisbbgirl]

Originally Posted by calyypso1

I actually get on here a lot and I find comfort in it and lots of information. Some of it is incorrect but I do my own research. My LO found this site helpful before he went in so he was glad I am using it. I can see maybe in your man's mind that he doesn't want his "business" out online-and not understanding fully what this is is frustrating him. It is his own perception that is got him acting funny. However, if you are thoughtful about that before putting out here, the moderators should not have any issues with you. You are trying to find out how to deal with all the stuff that goes with having a loved one inside. The trouble I get into is when someone says mean things to my posts or they reply in a manner that is not helpful( a.k.a passive agressive comments) . The moderators just delete or move posts and tell me in a pm why they did it. I get over it because this site keeps me sane. Aside from the occasional responses that are undesirable, the site is actually quite excellent. I can pass an evening on this forum and it gives me something to do. I hope you both can figure this out. Would hate to see you go so soon! Hugs!

Thank you

[nakeisha99]

To be honest with you my man doesn't like it much. You read alot of crazy things on here sometimes and it has you second guessing even if you never had before. I learned to take the good, leave the bad. But he doesn't act all weird like you're saying. Maybe it's it's someone here he doesn't want you to know about. I'm kidding, the best way to find out is to ask him.

[hisbbgirl]

Originally Posted by nakeisha99

To be honest with you my man doesn't like it much. You read alot of crazy things on here sometimes and it has you second guessing even if you never had before. I learned to take the good, leave the bad. But he doesn't act all weird like you're saying. Maybe it's it's someone here he doesn't want you to know about. I'm kidding, the best way to find out is to ask him.

I know all was fine with me. I would read stories on here n I never thought anything like that about us but when I told him about the site, n with his reaction that's when I starting feeling something... Like said maybe its me I just have to wait n see.

[hisbbgirl]

Originally Posted by Patty

It would be removed. This is just not what PTO's community purpose is about. Situations where what you are suggesting cause problems between members and always end badly. Having said that, do you real feel like he is concerned you will find that he is involved with someone that uses the site? Could it not just be that he has misgivings about what PTO offers? At any rate the best hope you have for finding out what the problem is would be to discuss it with him. Communication is key to any successful relationship.

Yeah. Well I'm not on here to cause any problems or start drama, but if there is something going on I would sure like to know but ill talk to him again soon n leave it at that . Thanks Patty.

[hisbbgirl]

I love this site so I sure don't wanna get kicked off LOL. Maybe I just had one if those days.

[DP's Girl]

Just take a deep breath and don't read too much into it. This is probably why he's concerned :-). A man will always fear a hen party, a whole bunch of women getting together and convincing his woman she can find someone better. When I first told Dee about PTO he was concerned I would let other peoples negativity influence our relationship. I explained to him I'm a grown woman and I don't let other peoples drama impact us. Now he makes sure to pass on info about his facility for me to post and keeps me up to date on lockdowns, etc. I wouldn't worry too much if this is the only reason you have for concern. Talk to him about it and let it go.

[littlerascal197]

Originally Posted by hisbbgirl

Party,

What if I just put his first name n the prison he's at? Would they delete that? Idk I've never had this efed up feeling before so I know something isn't right ;/

Alot of the inmates have nicknames. Could you put in his nickname and see what happens?

[xamariee]

At first my bf was a little iffy about it like everything I would ask him like a question he would be like oh where did you hear that at? Prison talk? He was okay with it but he just told me before I go listening to everything I read to ask him first -.- but I feel it's a great site to interact on, especially with people with loved ones incarcerated. Now he just jokes around like if we do something silly he will say go on prison talk and tell the ladies lol

[DP's Girl]

Originally Posted by littlerascal197

Alot of the inmates have nicknames. Could you put in his nickname and see what happens?

Please don't because there are several inmates with the same nickname. There are 3 other inmates at Dee's facility with the same nickname.

[Mrs. Happy]

My husband was the same way. He was acting a little wierd at first and I had to break it down for him. Now he teases me about this site (not in a bad way). Just tell him you come here for support because alot of the women on here are going through same thing you are going through.

[hisbbgirl]

Originally Posted by DP's Girl

Please don't because there are several inmates with the same nickname. There are 3 other inmates at Dee's facility with the same nickname.

Mine has a very unique nickname LOL I've never ever heard anyone having it .. he's had it since he was a baby! LOL his mom n aunt gave it to him and it stuck to him.

[calyypso1]

Originally Posted by hisbbgirl

Mine has a very unique nickname LOL I've never ever heard anyone having it .. he's had it since he was a baby! LOL his mom n aunt gave it to him and it stuck to him.

It sounds cute but what I use to identify is LO(Loved One) they all know he is my man but it is short and general and I believe it is a common term. What do you think about using that?

[pss12]

I asked my fiancee` if me being on PTO bothered him. He simply said that it does concern him because he knows that there will be individuals on here trying to get at people in their low times. That made sense to me since it is a public forum. I have not encountered anyone like that yet but I know it's possible. He just told me to be careful.

[Patty]

Okay folks let's get off the name the guy/nickname the guy publicly it will only cause problems for her with our staff. Now let's try to stay on topic...

[juss me6]

my boyfriend knows i really have no support so when i told him i found this site he said cool. i also tell him almost everything i read and give him the same information im getting. i tell him not to listen to the guys in there that will bring our relationship down because i have read about it plenty.

[ilovecoffee]

I dont really think my babe cares. As long as I dont take everything written here as truth and start running with it. I know who we are and thats that.

[D's lady]

My guy is happy about it but at the same time he says not to listen to what everyone tell me

Sent from my iPhone using PrisonTalk

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by hisbbgirl

I have asked he tells me he's just wondering but I get the feeling there is more too it! I mean yes there is nothing wrong with others writing him, I just feel like he's hiding something all the sudden. Idk maybe I'm tripping. How can I find out if anyone else on here is writing him tho?

Have you typed his name in the pen-pal websites? Maybe he has an ad on one of those places and does not want you to find out.

Since you cannot type his name in here, go to the different websites and type it in there,....see if he has an ad somewhere.

Peace~

[Nieves915]

I mentioned PTO to my husband, and i dont think he likes it very much, but i think it is because he knows im quick to tell it all, Im an open book and he doesnt want people to know his business, its not that i want to tell his business its just cuz no one understands unless they are going through the same things,,,,

[steph316]

I also told my boyfriend and he said it was good I found a place to vent and was interested to know more about it.. Maybe your guy is just worried about your safety?

[hisbbgirl]

Originally Posted by InmateLover67

Have you typed his name in the pen-pal websites? Maybe he has an ad on one of those places and does not want you to find out.

Since you cannot type his name in here, go to the different websites and type it in there,....see if he has an ad somewhere.

Peace~

Yeah he had one on write a prisoner a while back ..

[hisbabygurl2014]

Originally Posted by hisbbgirl

Yeah he had one on write a prisoner a while back ..

So than are you guys MWI?