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passionpersian · #1 05-24-2012, 09:55 AM

Let me BEGIN my saying that I might be wrong in this situation. . .

So my boo is about to be released either the end of this month or the first week of June. His parole certificate has been cut, his address has been approved, and we're waiting on the release date. He is stressed. I am stressed. It seems like TDCJ is completely unorganized. (No surprise there, I guess.)

So I got a letter from him last night telling me that all the other men that have release dates in June have their date already and something must be wrong because he's the only one without it. He said, "I need you to take this seriously," "don't brush me off" and he kept repeating it and telling me to make sure I call, like a thousand times.

I have been depressed and stressed for almost 2 weeks (apparently this is a common occurance with the ladies who are about to have their men come home!

), and I've been super emotional and crying. At the end of the first page, I was crying! So I wrote him back. and. went. off.

I was saying how dare he tell me "to take this seriously" when I've been calling for weeks trying to get his date. I've been doing everything within my power to organize his s**t and he comes to me like I'm brushing him off. Never in the entirety of me knowing this man have I ever brushed him off. I've helped him tremendously. So I was beyond offended.

So I told him in the letter (among other things - LOL!) that he will only be hearing from me with updates on his release and information about me picking him up. I do not want to communicate with him other than business right now.

Maybe I'm wrong because I know he's stressed too, and because he's getting out so soon, he is gonna need to talk to me and all that. He's already scared of this big step, and I know that I am not helping by my letter. . . .

Thoughts???

Scotties_Girl21 · #2 05-24-2012, 09:59 AM

I wouldn't send the letter if you think you may regret it, it will only stress you out. I would write him a little nicer one lol explaining he's frustrating you a lot because your doing all you can and you have never brushed him off. Say I'm taking this just as serious as u are so please don't make it like I'm not trying. He's probly just stressed because he doesn't have his out date yet and I'm sure you are too.

passionpersian · #3 05-24-2012, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

I wouldn't send the letter if you think you may regret it, it will only stress you out. I would write him a little nicer one lol explaining he's frustrating you a lot because your doing all you can and you have never brushed him off. Say I'm taking this just as serious as u are so please don't make it like I'm not trying. He's probly just stressed because he doesn't have his out date yet and I'm sure you are too.

Very good advice. . . Except I already sent the letter. LOL! Horrible, I know. But I was so mad when I read it last night that I immediately wrote back and put it in the mail (I live in apartments, so it's a mail slot). I should probably send him a JPay saying things nicer, but I can't send it until Friday, so he would get it Saturday or Monday.

Scotties_Girl21 · #4 05-24-2012, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by passionpersian

Very good advice. . . Except I already sent the letter. LOL! Horrible, I know. But I was so mad when I read it last night that I immediately wrote back and put it in the mail (I live in apartments, so it's a mail slot). I should probably send him a JPay saying things nicer, but I can't send it until Friday, so he would get it Saturday or Monday.

it will be fine. I've sent letters like that before. The only problem with mad letters is usually by the time they get them your over it so then he's mad cuz you were mad, but not so mad once he gets it. Lol, I'm sure he will understand.

Momma Ann · #5 05-24-2012, 10:16 AM

This is a VERY Common thing. Called Short timers syndrome. Here is a link to a good post on it. Nearly everyone goes through drama right before the release.

http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/sho...d.php?t=514211

rsoutherland04 · #6 05-24-2012, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by passionpersian

Let me BEGIN my saying that I might be wrong in this situation. . .

So my boo is about to be released either the end of this month or the first week of June. His parole certificate has been cut, his address has been approved, and we're waiting on the release date. He is stressed. I am stressed. It seems like TDCJ is completely unorganized. (No surprise there, I guess.)

So I got a letter from him last night telling me that all the other men that have release dates in June have their date already and something must be wrong because he's the only one without it. He said, "I need you to take this seriously," "don't brush me off" and he kept repeating it and telling me to make sure I call, like a thousand times.

I have been depressed and stressed for almost 2 weeks (apparently this is a common occurance with the ladies who are about to have their men come home!

), and I've been super emotional and crying. At the end of the first page, I was crying! So I wrote him back. and. went. off.

I was saying how dare he tell me "to take this seriously" when I've been calling for weeks trying to get his date. I've been doing everything within my power to organize his s**t and he comes to me like I'm brushing him off. Never in the entirety of me knowing this man have I ever brushed him off. I've helped him tremendously. So I was beyond offended.

So I told him in the letter (among other things - LOL!) that he will only be hearing from me with updates on his release and information about me picking him up. I do not want to communicate with him other than business right now.

Maybe I'm wrong because I know he's stressed too, and because he's getting out so soon, he is gonna need to talk to me and all that. He's already scared of this big step, and I know that I am not helping by my letter. . . .

Thoughts???

I know how you are feeling. My baby is also due to be released around this same time. This morning I've been on the phone at his request trying to find out an exact release date. He also has a habit of repeating his self, and telling me I need to take it serious. I'm like really, I do take it serious and I want you home so bad. Hope you get a release date soon. Good luck to you and yours in the future.

MrsCetina · #7 05-24-2012, 11:47 AM

I think you should keep talking to him normally until hes released. Its really scary and overwhelming for them in there when they are about to be released, they feel helpless and have nothing but time to think about all the things that could go wrong to keep them from leaving. Mine was really nervous because he had a warrant over a traffic ticket and he was freaking out, thinking he would have to stay longer. He would ask me about it every time he called and he calmed down when i got it cleared up for him. I know you are stressed too but try to patient with him. Hes just scared and needs your love and support.

passionpersian · #8 05-24-2012, 12:48 PM

Thanks for the info, Momma Ann! It looks like exactly what's happening with us right now!

Thanks for your support, rsoutherland04! I am really hoping that the release date comes up soon too. It's just a killer not having an exact date!

MrsCetina, I'm taking your advice. I will be talking to him as normal. I know he's stressed and once he gets that letter, he's gonna be 10 times more stress! Poor guy. . .