What do you do about the ???

[waitingforD]

Y ex dropped me like a hot potato. Went from "I love you soooo much!!" to nothing!! I have no clue why. I know logically I shouldn't care and should move on. But I didn't have any closure. I have so many questions. The usual ones like did he ever really love me? Was he using me? What happened? Etc. etc.

What do I do with these questions that are driving me insane? I'm moving on with my life. I'm getting out of the house. I'm exercising. I'm moving into a new apartment in July. But he invades my mind all the time...

[canadiangirl098]

is he still in jail and did he send you a letter stating it was over??

[FastCarGirl]

Some guys are just like that.

Answer them yourself in the way that makes you feel good. In this case, it probably really IS him, it's not you. You did nothing wrong.

And keep moving forward.

[ace9807]

My ex did the same - I made my own closure. Sometimes you just have to do that. A lot of information was found out after the fact which explained everything....the truth always comes out. So, in my opinion, although it may hurt for awhile, move on with your life, close that chapter. You deserve better than that anyway. Make your own closure and when the truth comes out, the "why's" will no longer matter. Good luck to you!!

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by waitingforD

Y ex dropped me like a hot potato. Went from "I love you soooo much!!" to nothing!! I have no clue why. I know logically I shouldn't care and should move on. But I didn't have any closure. I have so many questions. The usual ones like did he ever really love me? Was he using me? What happened? Etc. etc.

What do I do with these questions that are driving me insane? I'm moving on with my life. I'm getting out of the house. I'm exercising. I'm moving into a new apartment in July. But he invades my mind all the time...

I would say you got closure, maybe not in the way you would have liked it, but if you have not heard from him, he is done. And, if you were to have the opportunity to get your questions answered, would they be the ones you want to hear?, probably not.

When you have moved on, he will not longer invade your thoughts, so you have work to do, in order to move on.

Keep doing what you are doing...and remember, everything happens for a reason.

Peace~

[waitingforD]

Originally Posted by canadiangirl098

is he still in jail and did he send you a letter stating it was over??

He is still in jail. I have not heard a word from him. His mother, his son's mother, his friends I heard from. I returned his stuff to his family after 4 weeks of no phone calls or letters.

[Nicksmother]

You will be fine, everything happens for a reason. Take care and keep on moving. Don't get even - get better! You deserve the best.

[shaunna]

I understand wanting closure, it's hard sometimes moving on when we don't quite understand why certain things happen. Unfortunately that's apart of life whether we like it or not, time heels all wounds and eventually even if not right away, you will get to a place where you no longer care about whether he loved you or why things happen the way they did. Until you get there best wishes to you for the future