He gets out, and becomes another back to clothe, and mouth to feed

[Prettylady29]

So I been thinking, how would I handle him getting out and not having a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of. I am sorry but this dude is starting to remind me of my insurance on my cell phone. I pay it every month but I don't even use it. I am sick of this. So going ahead 4 years he gets out, hes got 5 kids already, none by me, has been in and out of jail since a child, so he has no job history at all. I often feel sorry for the dude, but when he was free he had me and two girls pregnant, wow, his life is a total mess, its his fault. I will not support him and plus I dont even know wht he is going to be like when he comes back, wht if the 4 baby mommas have him up for child support, I need a real man, not another child with a bunch of children, and chics.

[Klewis]

Wow I feel you on that. It sounds like you know you have wasted enoguh time.

[Hakimu-Rosetta]

Originally Posted by Prettylady29

So I been thinking, how would I handle him getting out and not having a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of. I am sorry but this dude is starting to remind me of my insurance on my cell phone. I pay it every month but I don't even use it. I am sick of this. So going ahead 4 years he gets out, hes got 5 kids already, none by me, has been in and out of jail since a child, so he has no job history at all. I often feel sorry for the dude, but when he was free he had me and two girls pregnant, wow, his life is a total mess, its his fault. I will not support him and plus I dont even know wht he is going to be like when he comes back, wht if the 4 baby mommas have him up for child support, I need a real man, not another child with a bunch of children, and chics.

Question: Not to be rude or anything butttt...

Why have you made this last all this time IF you feel like how you do? Only "YOU" can make yourself feel and be used. If you feel like he's just there leeching off of you maybe it's time to cut ties. If you observe all of this, don't sit back and wait it out any longer but, take care of it now before it gets any worse.

Best Wishes

[Prettylady29]

Originally Posted by Hakimu-Rosetta

Question: Not to be rude or anything butttt...

Why have you made this last all this time IF you feel like how you do? Only "YOU" can make yourself feel and be used. If you feel like he's just there leeching off of you maybe it's time to cut ties. If you observe all of this, don't sit back and wait it out any longer but, take care of it now before it gets any worse.

Best Wishes

Your right, and as of today I amm done with all of his crap. I am writing him a letter right now, he can kick rocks, I just do not see a bright future, I feel bad, but I am done putting my life on hold. Thought I could forgive, forget about the past, get past wht he did, but I just can't. I am done making excuses, he gotta go

[Hakimu-Rosetta]

Originally Posted by Prettylady29

Your right, and as of today I amm done with all of his crap. I am writing him a letter right now, he can kick rocks, I just do not see a bright future, I feel bad, but I am done putting my life on hold. Thought I could forgive, forget about the past, get past wht he did, but I just can't. I am done making excuses, he gotta go

Yeah, Usually when you can't give up the past...it tends to linger.

I hope all goes well with you sweetie...you deserve happiness and not to have anything on your shoulders.

[MRS.GRIFFIN]

Sorry to hear that...you are the only one who knows what all you can put up with. Im sending prayers your way for strength, that no matter what happens god will be with you

[4ever love]

I will respond as a mom, because I am one to 2 girls, 1 boy all adults, and because I see what your avatar reads, "I love God". I don't think it's ever intended for us to carry someone else's burdens. You tried, and you did your best and congrats to you for that. From what you write, you gave freely to a guy who, had too much on his mind, HIMSELF...Then without thinking responsibly, he now has 5 children to support. Of course, each will need some sort of financial support. He has no skills, and will be starting over when he gets out in 4 years.

As a God loving woman also, I have one request - Send the letter as you have a responsibility to let him know, but send one that's filled with love, compassion, truth, and let him know that you two have nothing left in common and you need to move forward, in peace. Step away from your hurt and anger, and forget about telling him to pound rocks. He too, is in pain, and behind bars. Therefore, make peace with this and fill that letter with words that God would approve of.

I wish you the best, and Godspeed in healing...

Blessings to you and happy days ahead.

[Prettylady29]

Thanks everyone, forever love, you have really calmed me down and reminded me tht I need to be compassionte because he is hurting too. Had to tear up the first letter and write another, I realized I still need to be encourageing, and end things on a good note

[Prettylady29]

Originally Posted by MRS.GRIFFIN

Sorry to hear that...you are the only one who knows what all you can put up with. Im sending prayers your way for strength, that no matter what happens god will be with you

Thank you Mrs. Griffin

[MRS.GRIFFIN]

You are so welcome
sending you ((((((((hugs)))))))))

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by Prettylady29

So I been thinking, how would I handle him getting out and not having a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of. I am sorry but this dude is starting to remind me of my insurance on my cell phone. I pay it every month but I don't even use it. I am sick of this. So going ahead 4 years he gets out, hes got 5 kids already, none by me, has been in and out of jail since a child, so he has no job history at all. I often feel sorry for the dude, but when he was free he had me and two girls pregnant, wow, his life is a total mess, its his fault. I will not support him and plus I dont even know wht he is going to be like when he comes back, wht if the 4 baby mommas have him up for child support, I need a real man, not another child with a bunch of children, and chics.

You go girl! Who gives two shit's what he has to piss in when he gets out. If he is playing women, he gets what he deserves and you deserve so much more.

Keep moving on He is already kicking rocks and it sounds like the karma train is going to throw him some hard-core child support, so if/when he does get out, and gets a job, he will not be able to afford didley squat....that is karma at it's best

Peace~

[Patty]

Reminder for those joining this discussion:

When the Relationship is Over... This forum is about discussing your thoughts, feelings and issues now that you and your incarcerated (or formerly incarcerated) loved one are no longer together. (This forum is NOT for bashing - please read the rules before posting.)

[4ever love]

Originally Posted by Prettylady29

Thanks everyone, forever love, you have really calmed me down and reminded me tht I need to be compassionte because he is hurting too. Had to tear up the first letter and write another, I realized I still need to be encourageing, and end things on a good note

Your welcome. There's another reason I write, my 4ever love is incarcerated. Strange how things work. He called me earlier than expected. Asked what I was doing. He thought I was crying. I said "no, laughing". I'm catching squirrels and releasing them in our back country. He stops me and asks, "You picking me up, right?" Of course I am. And then says very quietly calmly, "I love you so much".

Took me a few, after that minute warning , and I'm like why would he question that? Looked at the day and time, and realized, something not cool happened to one of the guys at his fire camp. He needed reassurance and couldn't wait, to call me at normal time.

From this I gather, how important it is to remember where they are, stuck, and although we do have a right to move forward, it should be with grace, that we can be proud of. The way one out here says, "good bye" has an effect on all of them.

Blessings all. I caught another one! Off to release...

[thatwiz]

Most people coming out have nothing and need a lot of things-don't have money until they can get a job, if they can even find one in this economy. Most will need someone's finances or turn to crime again, because you can't live off nothing. I would anticipate anyone supporting someone coming out of prison that it will be an expense for at least awhile to indefinitely. It's just the reality of it. Felons are not most employable people and many have no real job skills having never had a job or being locked up for many years.

[Prettylady29]

Originally Posted by thatwiz

Most people coming out have nothing and need a lot of things-don't have money until they can get a job, if they can even find one in this economy. Most will need someone's finances or turn to crime again, because you can't live off nothing. I would anticipate anyone supporting someone coming out of prison that it will be an expense for at least awhile to indefinitely. It's just the reality of it. Felons are not most employable people and many have no real job skills having never had a job or being locked up for many years.

Yes this is true, I hope he can manage somehow,

[Candy4U]

oh no!! just let go of him.....

[pisces317]

Originally Posted by Prettylady29

So I been thinking, how would I handle him getting out and not having a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of. I am sorry but this dude is starting to remind me of my insurance on my cell phone. I pay it every month but I don't even use it. I am sick of this. So going ahead 4 years he gets out, hes got 5 kids already, none by me, has been in and out of jail since a child, so he has no job history at all. I often feel sorry for the dude, but when he was free he had me and two girls pregnant, wow, his life is a total mess, its his fault. I will not support him and plus I dont even know wht he is going to be like when he comes back, wht if the 4 baby mommas have him up for child support, I need a real man, not another child with a bunch of children, and chics.

i had to laugh cause you said a pot to pee and its true he has alot of baggage but if he cares he'll get 3jobs to take care of his kids and you REMEMBER IF HE CARES ENOUGH and lets be honest this is a street guy who's use to making dirty money and will be back to prison on more occassions then i want to remind you of,i would to befriend him w/o obligations ,depending on how you want your future and if you want all the problems along with the facts that this guys is having unprotected sex getting you and 2others pregnant pleeeze what are his good points cause i heard enough of his bad points

[Prettylady29]

Well, he is a nice guy, he was good with my daughter, we connected on many levels. I had to re read my post. I went super hard on him tht day, well thank goodness for pt, because I have posted things on here tht I might would have said to him lol!! I gotta learn how to get my emotions under control. Truth is with all his baggage, I still want to try. Why do I love somebody like this?

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by Prettylady29

So I been thinking, how would I handle him getting out and not having a pot to pee in or a window to throw it out of. I am sorry but this dude is starting to remind me of my insurance on my cell phone. I pay it every month but I don't even use it. I am sick of this. So going ahead 4 years he gets out, hes got 5 kids already, none by me, has been in and out of jail since a child, so he has no job history at all. I often feel sorry for the dude, but when he was free he had me and two girls pregnant, wow, his life is a total mess, its his fault. I will not support him and plus I dont even know wht he is going to be like when he comes back, wht if the 4 baby mommas have him up for child support, I need a real man, not another child with a bunch of children, and chics.

Lmao....it sounds as though you have reached your limit. Good for you for standing up for what you believe is right.

I would be feeling the same way, If I were you....count your blessings and move on.

Best

Peace~

[pisces317]

dont be sorry some including myself tend to go overboard when we get mad,i tell all his truths i just tend to see more clearly afterward and say i really went hard ,anyways you sound tired of his b.s

[egbdf65]

See? The answers are already inside of you. So what action will you take, and when?