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precioustime · #1 06-10-2012, 06:32 PM

I went to visit my bf in the county, where the visit are through glass. They are spaced out so you really can't see the people in the booths next to you but in one part of the room the inmates can see the person/ppl directly behind me (but my back is to them) Well it looked to me, although I wasn't directly in his face the whole time, like he kept checking out the girl that was behind me. Not to be mean, but I wouldn't in a million years have thought he would ever be lookin at this chick-at all. I did say something to him about it and he denied it and I've brought it up several times since, bc I was so upset when I left that visit bc of that. Ever since I've somewhat distanced myself from him. I feel like why am I out here waiting on your ass and you're in there and can't even keep your eyes to yourself?? Am I wrong? How would you handle it? I'm having a very hard time letting that go

InmateLover67 · #2 06-10-2012, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by precioustime

I went to visit my bf in the county, where the visit are through glass. They are spaced out so you really can't see the people in the booths next to you but in one part of the room the inmates can see the person/ppl directly behind me (but my back is to them) Well it looked to me, although I wasn't directly in his face the whole time, like he kept checking out the girl that was behind me. Not to be mean, but I wouldn't in a million years have thought he would ever be lookin at this chick-at all. I did say something to him about it and he denied it and I've brought it up several times since, bc I was so upset when I left that visit bc of that. Ever since I've somewhat distanced myself from him. I feel like why am I out here waiting on your ass and you're in there and can't even keep your eyes to yourself?? Am I wrong? How would you handle it? I'm having a very hard time letting that go

In my opinion, it is rude if he is in fact staring at some chick behind you, when you are there visiting him. He has a right to look at whoever he wants, but it is kind of rude.

I would check her dude out and see if he is eye-candy and give him a taste of his own medicine..lol. Childish I know, but I am being a smart-ass.

I would say if it is bothering you that bad, don't visit for a while, or can you go on a different day when she may not be there? Then, when he asks why you don't come, say "well since you seem more interested in checking this other chick out, you don't need me here".

Peace~

Scotties_Girl21 · #3 06-10-2012, 06:50 PM

It may have just been curiosity. I know I stare at ppl all the time in visits and don't even realize it lol. I'm guessing it would go double for them since they don't see much else than the inside of a jail. But I would have said something too because you don't know what was going thru his head. It could have been innocent but who knows.

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tripsgirl · #4 06-10-2012, 06:55 PM

Wow, how frustrating. :/
I haven't had that problem but once.. and he wasn't looking at the girl he was looking at her slim jim!
He kept sayin 'babe! omg see if she has a slim jim on the counter!' i was like 'trip.. i am not turning around to look at this girls food like a psycho!!!' lol

imluvnmesumhim · #5 06-10-2012, 06:56 PM

I think I would be banned from the facility, cause we have contact visit, and something(my hand)will contact his face,

You should've known that I would stay by your side , You should've known your girl was gonna ride or die, And it just don't matter if ya rich or poor, Out or in doing 5 to10, You should've known better
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tripsgirl · #6 06-10-2012, 07:03 PM

lol he's just too much.
I swear that man always thinks about food.
One time I was talking to him on the tv screens when he was in county and his friend was standing beside him with a honey bun.. his friend asked if I could do something for him and I said sure if you give my man half of your honey bun! He did - and my man was so thankful. lol. I said 'see babe, can't say I never do anything for you!'

imluvnmesumhim · #7 06-10-2012, 07:07 PM

But seriously we look around all the time...lol, cause I tell you its like a soap opera me and him, be like now didnt he have a different chick the week before, just be giggling, but I do watch him, when a female that could be his type come in and he says"I'm not looking"..lol

You should've known that I would stay by your side , You should've known your girl was gonna ride or die, And it just don't matter if ya rich or poor, Out or in doing 5 to10, You should've known better
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Damask8 · #8 06-10-2012, 07:07 PM

The other day I caught my self straight up staring at this girl. She was 55 lbs too heavy for the dress she was wearing, her boobs were BARELY covered, and i could see her butt cheeks. While i was looking at her, I was wondering if she realized what she looked like, whether or not she owned a full length mirror, and what she was thinking.

People stare. Sometimes they stare for no reason, other times, they are just staring wondering what is going on, or just out of curiosity. I think you need to be secure with yourself and these things wouldn't be an issue.

imluvnmesumhim · #9 06-10-2012, 07:12 PM

Where he's at she would have never gotten in

You should've known that I would stay by your side , You should've known your girl was gonna ride or die, And it just don't matter if ya rich or poor, Out or in doing 5 to10, You should've known better
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Scotties_Girl21 · #10 06-10-2012, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Damask8

The other day I caught my self straight up staring at this girl. She was 55 lbs too heavy for the dress she was wearing, her boobs were BARELY covered, and i could see her butt cheeks. While i was looking at her, I was wondering if she realized what she looked like, whether or not she owned a full length mirror, and what she was thinking.

People stare. Sometimes they stare for no reason, other times, they are just staring wondering what is going on, or just out of curiosity. I think you need to be secure with yourself and these things wouldn't be an issue.

I'm really bad for just staring and not realizing it lol. Females and other inmates. At our first visit a couple weeks ago this Guy and his girl were sitting right behind him so they were directly in my line of vision and I caught myself staring thinking how happy they looked and my bf was like what do u keep looking at? Lol, I was like my bad ima spaz I can't help it. I ppl watch a lot and just space out I can't help it.

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Princess1029 · #11 06-10-2012, 07:27 PM

I know I space of staring at people in visit..& sometimes he does too.. There was one girl there and I was like gosh, she is so pretty..and he looked at her, but other than that.. he doesn't really do much staring..He did when he was out..his mom told him stop that shit..so he isn't as bad

imluvnmesumhim · #12 06-10-2012, 07:35 PM

I think it just a reaction, so that we are aware of our surroundings

You should've known that I would stay by your side , You should've known your girl was gonna ride or die, And it just don't matter if ya rich or poor, Out or in doing 5 to10, You should've known better
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Mrs. Happy · #13 06-10-2012, 07:41 PM

Next time he does that get up and walk out on his ass. I mean if it bothers you that much. That will let him know how upset it makes you. Then tell him you go up there so you can see eachother not so he can check out some chick. I would be upset too. Me and my hubby go by the 5 second rule looking at the opposite sex more than 5 second is disrespectful.

precioustime · #14 06-10-2012, 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Princess1029

I know I space of staring at people in visit..& sometimes he does too.. There was one girl there and I was like gosh, she is so pretty..and he looked at her, but other than that.. he doesn't really do much staring..He did when he was out..his mom told him stop that shit..so he isn't as bad

Believe me....this girl was far from remotely attractive......and about four times my size literally

I said something right away and he said he wasn't looking at her that he was "looking at me" lol Uhmmmmmm, I saw it with my periphial vision. It wasn't one glance-thats for sure or else it wouldn't be a big deal. If she was attractive, regardless of her size, I would understand it better. Instead I felt totally f'n insulted-like I'm here and that's what you're looking at?? It even got me to where I asked him what he was doing with me because it's obvious I'm not his type? Then of course, you know I'm crazy!! I really care about this guy, I've known him forever, but I am somewhat insecure and have been really hurt in the past. With that being said, I don't want him to pay for someone elses mistakes. Ever since this issue pops up in my head when I think about waiting for his ass out here or not. Scorpios have a habit of holding onto things for a loooooonnnngggg time-even if we don't want to.

slim07 · #15 06-10-2012, 08:18 PM

My man has been in and out of prison for some time now, and although I haven't been able to see him in the prison he is at right now, I do remember going to visit him years ago in another prison. A friend of mine and I would go up there together, because her man was in the same prison. We would go up there every weekend or every other weekend, and we would catch so many people doing stupid shit and just get to laughing.

My man would never do that, and if he did, he already knows what type of shit would go down. I would ask him about it first, because you never know, he might know the chic. Or like some of the other ladies said, he might not even know he is gazing off, looking at someone else.
When I would go visit, he would be all about me. He wouldn't take his eyes off me, unless he was saying what's up to another inmate or their family because he knew them. He wouldn't sit there and hide anything from me. He would tell me straight up who the person was, and how he knew them.
But if it is a problem, talk to him about it. If you can't except what he has to say and all you can do is think about it, then I think maybe you should step back a little bit and think about the type of life that you have with this man, and if you want to continue on with it. Communication is key to any successful relationship.

Purplegirl1008 · #16 06-10-2012, 08:27 PM

I'd be totally pissed! Idk how I would react if Jesse was gawking at some other chick. Hopefully I never have to find out cuz I'd be liable to be like "oh really after I held you down? well maybe SHE will hold you down next time!" I know guys look but I hate when they are obvious about it. He can wait til he's not with me (which will probably be never lol)

ilovecoffee · #17 06-10-2012, 08:52 PM

If he casually looked that be ok. Staring would be straight up rude. He would be def told

lvmiller · #18 06-10-2012, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Scotties_Girl21

It may have just been curiosity. I know I stare at ppl all the time in visits and don't even realize it lol. I'm guessing it would go double for them since they don't see much else than the inside of a jail. But I would have said something too because you don't know what was going thru his head. It could have been innocent but who knows.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

I agree I went on my first visit since he got sent from reception and I caught myself staring out of curiosity. But I would of said something to ,

DP's Girl · #19 06-10-2012, 09:10 PM

The first question I'd ask myself would be is this kind of disrespect normal for him. If he stared at other women while on the street its pretty safe to assume he was staring at her. If he didn't stare at women on the street he probably wasn't staring at her in the visiting room. Being locked up doesn't change your basic character. It's quite possible she just happened to be in his line of sight so whenever he looked up it appeared he was looking at her. Or he could have been distracted by something about her. The last time I visited Dee there was a girl in some dark grey pants with green, blue and pink circles, a cheetah print jacket and snake skin sandals and apparently I stared at her every time she moved. I didn't realize it until he turned around to see what I was looking at because he said I had the strangest look on my face. I was just flabbergasted that she would wear even one of those pieces but to wear it together was really distracting me. Needless to say I didn't find her attractive nor was I trying to be disrespectful she just genuinely captured my attention. Only you know your man. So only you know if this is something he would do. Take that into consideration when deciding how to deal with it. Good luck.

Mrs.taylor2011 · #20 06-10-2012, 09:15 PM

hes a man,and men tend to look at a woman if shes pretty,got a big butt or boobs.. my bf tends to stare at a chicks butt and as a joke ill ask him do you want to me move over so you can get a better view?? and we'll laugh it off its normal..i cant name ONE man who doesnt look at the next woman butt/boobs etc ,seriously & honestly ..i dont see the big deal about looking but staring yeah he could've glance once or twice and been done with it.

precioustime · #21 06-10-2012, 09:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

hes a man,and men tend to look at a woman if shes pretty,got a big butt or boobs.. my bf tends to stare at a chicks butt and as a joke ill ask him do you want to me move over so you can get a better view?? and we'll laugh it off its normal..i cant name ONE man who doesnt look at the next woman butt/boobs etc ,seriously & honestly ..i dont see the big deal about looking but staring yeah he could've glance once or twice and been done with it.

No he does stare at butts, too. Maybe I should just start staring at men (no matter what they look like) lol big, fat, ugly, nasty whatever and see how he likes that??

shananana · #22 06-10-2012, 09:32 PM

That might bother me at first, but I wouldn't let it get me upset to the point where I'm becoming insecure with myself. I'm not saying that it's okay because it is disrespectful of him.
The times I've went to go see my love, he's been focused on me. When we first saw each other, he just was quiet. I asked him what was wrong and he said "Nothing, I'm just looking at you.." and I started to cry, haha. But then again, he's made comments about wanting me to send him Maxim magazines. For some reason that rubbed me the wrong way because I don't want him looking at anyone else but me, haha. I try not to worry about that though.

Scotties_Girl21 · #23 06-10-2012, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by precioustime

No he does stare at butts, too. Maybe I should just start staring at men (no matter what they look like) lol big, fat, ugly, nasty whatever and see how he likes that??

Give him a taste of his own medicine lol. I would if I was convinced my man was checking another girl out at visit. Look at the closest inmate with a look you know your man will notice then play the same thing he did like "huh? I wasn't staring" lol. I would too shit. Bet he'd get the point. It sounds immature but I'd so do that shit ha.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

Mrs.taylor2011 · #24 06-10-2012, 10:21 PM

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Originally Posted by precioustime

No he does stare at butts, too. Maybe I should just start staring at men (no matter what they look like) lol big, fat, ugly, nasty whatever and see how he likes that??

girl hes a man,men do that..hell i look at other men.i think nothing of it ..why get so hot and bother over nothing basically

..what harm can staring really do??? i glance at men all the time that catch my eye ..no harm. just looking.i mean if you get mad everytime he look at a woman butt,tits,etc you'll forever have problems,seriously.

precioustime · #25 06-10-2012, 10:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

girl hes a man,men do that..hell i look at other men.i think nothing of it ..why get so hot and bother over nothing basically

..what harm can staring really do??? i glance at men all the time that catch my eye ..no harm. just looking.i mean if you get mad everytime he look at a woman butt,tits,etc you'll forever have problems,seriously.

Okay we're human and we all do look and a glance is fine. But staring and making obvious in the presence of your man/woman is totally rude and disrespectful. But Imma do it to him a couple of times to where he notices and see if he likes it

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