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borkenpromises · #1 06-17-2012, 06:43 PM

I had a great weekend with his 9 year old daughter, she left at Noon and I thought I would cut the grass. I've cut it several times so far & have been quite proud of myself, plus it's good excercise. Well today it would not start and the neighbor even gave it a try, asked me about my husband & I broke down. Gave up on the lawnmower. Had a crying & screaming fit in a empty house. On & off crying and "yelling at him" all day. and to top if off tomorrow is 1 month at STATE and he still doesn't have phone privelages. Sent him a JPAY yelling at him about the stuipid lawnmower, now I feel guilty for sending him the msg. that he can't do anything about.

shenson · #2 06-17-2012, 08:21 PM

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Originally Posted by borkenpromises

I had a great weekend with his 9 year old daughter, she left at Noon and I thought I would cut the grass. I've cut it several times so far & have been quite proud of myself, plus it's good excercise. Well today it would not start and the neighbor even gave it a try, asked me about my husband & I broke down. Gave up on the lawnmower. Had a crying & screaming fit in a empty house. On & off crying and "yelling at him" all day. and to top if off tomorrow is 1 month at STATE and he still doesn't have phone privelages. Sent him a JPAY yelling at him about the stuipid lawnmower, now I feel guilty for sending him the msg. that he can't do anything about.

I am sorry to say that your post made me laugh

I just can relate to getting mad at him sometimes when it comes to things like that. My truck is suffering at the hands of me fixing its little repair needs when I know that he could make it purr once again. Sometimes when I am dealing with scheduling my 2 jobs and daycare for our daughter and she acts out in her lovely spoiled little ways, I grit my teeth and under my breath, most of the time, I say how mad at him I am.

He's been gone 2 years+ and we visit him on Family visits for 48 hours every six months but even doing that can become a financial burden as i budget everything in. I love him though and am a faithful wife and faithful Christian and I know that standing by him while he goes through this has shown him that not all people are fair weather. We will be married 7 years in September and before we met he had not experienced a trusting relationship anywhere in his life. Knowing this helps me to take a quick pause and a deep breath and forgive both myself and my husband and keep on keeping on.

hang in there

borkenpromises · #3 06-23-2012, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by borkenpromises

I had a great weekend with his 9 year old daughter, she left at Noon and I thought I would cut the grass. I've cut it several times so far & have been quite proud of myself, plus it's good excercise. Well today it would not start and the neighbor even gave it a try, asked me about my husband & I broke down. Gave up on the lawnmower. Had a crying & screaming fit in a empty house. On & off crying and "yelling at him" all day. and to top if off tomorrow is 1 month at STATE and he still doesn't have phone privelages. Sent him a JPAY yelling at him about the stuipid lawnmower, now I feel guilty for sending him the msg. that he can't do anything about.

My uncle came over and fixed the lawnmower, gave me a lesson "Lawnmower Mtn. 101"...apparently I got oil in everything and gunk was everywhere... Now I can cut the grass...YIPPIE!!!

ahora2012 · #4 06-23-2012, 01:59 PM

been there! ever done angry dishes?

totally normal girl!
dont sweat the email - just tell him you had a melt down and youre fine now! :0

**shaunna** · #5 06-23-2012, 05:27 PM

LOL sorry your post made me laugh too as it reminded me of the one time I tried mowing the lawn to help my dad and it was a complete and utter failure hahaha Glad your uncle was able to help you

welderswife · #6 06-23-2012, 11:14 PM

Oh I laughed reading your post! reminded me of the day the garbage disposal puked on the ceiling and wouldn't work again or the day the toilet backed up..LOL we all go thru it and its ok to vent!! It also gives us an opportunity to thank our men for all the little things they took care of for us that we may have taken for granted!!

LastOneLeft · #7 06-24-2012, 05:28 AM

I'm lucky here in that I lived with a usless husband for many years. I can't fix cars or lawnmowers, but I can completely rebuild a toilet and even fixed the shower. Pretty much my only limitation is that some things I'm just not strong enough to do. But I am used to handling all the day to day crap by myself. But I have been packing to move - 5 more days!!! - and I have told him over and over that I wasn't supposed to have to do all this by myself. This was OUR move into OUR place and WE aren't able to do it becaue HE is THERE and I am HERE! Poor guy just keeps saying "I know and I am sorry."

Damask8 · #8 06-24-2012, 06:33 AM

I have never mowed the lawn, and I never plan on it, I would have a bigger meltdown than you had if i had to

mandarose · #9 06-24-2012, 06:46 AM

Thank goodness for being such a tomboy most of my life lol and being around my father.. who taught me alot

Im probably better with all that stuff then any guy I been with... (except my kids father) so idk I guess that's something ill never worry or get frustrated with.. actually most my relationships failed cuz they were intimidated lol and felt she don't need me.. ^__^ but anyways

Sorry you had to go through that! Must of been frustrating, hopefully he will understand your frustration and all.. don't feel guilty Hun!

BFAV4EVER · #10 06-24-2012, 06:54 PM

I'm glad to read your day got better, I wouldn't sweat the email either, we all have our melt down days and our guys need to hear it! Yes they can't fix the problem but we spend so much time being strong for them, they need the reality of what is really going on.

As for your venting and melt down ... I've done it myself, much more publicly. I'm pretty sure my mechanic never wants to see me again and the neighbors are probably still laughing at me. My garbage bag split open ALL OVER my front yard last garbage night. It was hot n sticky here, I thought it was a good idea to clean the frige out two nights BEFORE garbage day (yeah it smelled pretty). I just stood there screaming and carrying on, while using the snow shovel to pick up the mess. The neighbors sat there watching me. They got an earful too!

So you see, we all have our "crazy woman" moments ... its OK, tomorrow is another day and will be better!