MWI - Been talking for 6 months

[pepepenguin11]

So one of my best friends went to federal and on day 4 he met this guy and gave him my address and after one letter, we went to emailing 3 or 4 times a day. Seems like a nice guy and I trust the judgement of my friend but it seems too good to be true. I met him for the first time this past weekend while he had a visit and I was visiting my friend. We just talk like friends but he told my friend he was really nervous when we were going to hug. He is very attractive and has always been with attractive girls and I am about average or worse... Lol! I don't want to get played and this might be presumptuous on my part but could it actually be something!?

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by pepepenguin11

So one of my best friends went to federal and on day 4 he met this guy and gave him my address and after one letter, we went to emailing 3 or 4 times a day. Seems like a nice guy and I trust the judgement of my friend but it seems too good to be true. I met him for the first time this past weekend while he had a visit and I was visiting my friend. We just talk like friends but he told my friend he was really nervous when we were going to hug. He is very attractive and has always been with attractive girls and I am about average or worse... Lol! I don't want to get played and this might be presumptuous on my part but could it actually be something!?

You will never know if you don't give it a try. I would caution you though, and suggest you take things REALLY slow.

I don't know how much time this guy has, but the proof will be in the pudding, when he gets out.

Keep building a friendship with him, be honest and tell him what you expect and want out of this friendship. If it turns to something more, at least you will have gotten your ducks in a row, so-to-speak. Take it one day at a time...BTW, looks are not everything...someone can be really "hot" and have a shitty personality....or they can have a great personality and be "fugly".

Good luck!

Peace~

[pepepenguin11]

Thank you for the advice, that's what I plan on doing and Trueche! we also talked about adding me to his visitor list because his family is far away but decided to reevaluate in a few months which is coming up pretty soon!

[ahora2012]

Originally Posted by pepepenguin11

So one of my best friends went to federal and on day 4 he met this guy and gave him my address and after one letter, we went to emailing 3 or 4 times a day. Seems like a nice guy and I trust the judgement of my friend but it seems too good to be true. I met him for the first time this past weekend while he had a visit and I was visiting my friend. We just talk like friends but he told my friend he was really nervous when we were going to hug. He is very attractive and has always been with attractive girls and I am about average or worse... Lol! I don't want to get played and this might be presumptuous on my part but could it actually be something!?

i have never understood why we make comments and put 'LOL' after them as if it will make it a joke- this statement - 'i am average or worse' is really upsetting to me - you my dear are perfect and deserve love not bc of how you look or dont look - please work on that self image - dont hate on yourself. never talk negative about yourself youre wonderful just as god made you. i know you will be tempted to say i was kidding - and i am here to just give you a hug and say, that to me, is the bigger issue - a man, in or our will play on that insecurity. get that in check and the rest will fall into place. TAKE IT SLOW WITH THIS MAN!!!!!!! VERY SLOW!

[shaunna]

Opposites attract and also everyone has different definitions on what they find attractive - self confidence is the key


just take things slow

[BrandonsBabe]

Don't you worry about your looks. He's obviously already into you, since he said he was nervous to even hug you. Take things slowly, as already stated, but stop thinking about looks. My Brandon is so much more attractive than I am, but we fit together so well, and looks don't really matter anyway. I've never been the girl that gets the guy, and I got a good one.

[agomez84]

Originally Posted by pepepenguin11

so one of my best friends went to federal and on day 4 he met this guy and gave him my address and after one letter, we went to emailing 3 or 4 times a day. Seems like a nice guy and i trust the judgement of my friend but it seems too good to be true. I met him for the first time this past weekend while he had a visit and i was visiting my friend. We just talk like friends but he told my friend he was really nervous when we were going to hug. He is very attractive and has always been with attractive girls and i am about average or worse... Lol! I don't want to get played and this might be presumptuous on my part but could it actually be something!?

beauty s n da eye of da beholder

[Patty]

Originally Posted by pepepenguin11

So one of my best friends went to federal and on day 4 he met this guy and gave him my address and after one letter, we went to emailing 3 or 4 times a day. Seems like a nice guy and I trust the judgement of my friend but it seems too good to be true. I met him for the first time this past weekend while he had a visit and I was visiting my friend. We just talk like friends but he told my friend he was really nervous when we were going to hug. He is very attractive and has always been with attractive girls and I am about average or worse... Lol! I don't want to get played and this might be presumptuous on my part but could it actually be something!?

Has he actually told you that he wants to be in a romantic relationship with you? Have you told him how you feel? You mention he's always been with attractive girls, you know this presumably because he told you? Did he show you pictures of these amazing women or was this just part of a discussion? What I am getting at is how can you determine how they compare to you? Perhaps you are one of the types of women he finds attractive.

People will say that looks don't matter but for most people that simply is not the case. Generally, when an incarcerated man or woman wouldn't be attracted to the MWI mate if they met in the free world, these relationships have a way of fizzling out just prior to release or just after the homecoming. There is something to be said for getting to know a person from the inside out but believe me by and large looks do matter to most people.

You have to approach it like any other relationship. There are always risks when you put your heart on the line. Talk to him about the things that matter to you and to him as individuals and take it from there. Communication is key to any successful relationship.

[HisKissOfLife]

Have to agree wholeheartedly with what Patty said. I believe what others have said to some degree as well but physical attraction shouldn't be downplayed. You have the opportunity to get to know someone you otherwise wouldn't and it might be someone you wouldn't normally associate with in everyday life - possibly partially because of our own insecurities or social stigmas.

That was something I was very worried about w/my guy and a large part of why I wanted to wait to say anything at all until we met. There needed to be that 'spark'. Fortunately there were lots of sparks! It seems like you have some insecurities about this relationship already and that's not a great sign. Spend more time getting to know him and see if some of those questions answer themselves and if they don't, get to askin!

[pepepenguin11]

Thanks guys :-)

[lil peep]

6 months isn't too long really. How much longer does he have to go? I agree with the other ladies who say that looks do matter to a degree. You have to have that spark. But how do you know what those women look like? If he was nervous to hug you, then you must have something he likes Just take time getting to know each other and see what happens. All you can do is let the relationship progress at it's own pace.