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Gregsgirlx3 · #1 06-26-2012, 10:10 PM

This may have been posted before but I'm just curious.

So what was going on in your life right before your man got locked up?

For me: we found out we were pregnant again. We were then planning on visiting our parents to tell them the great news but yeah didn't get to it.

Purplegirl1008 · #2 06-26-2012, 10:19 PM

Well we weren't together right before he got locked up. I had a boyfriend and he was off and on with his son's mom. I was absolutely crazy about him though, but since I couldn't be with him I tried to be happy with my boyfriend. He got locked up and his son's mom abandoned him. We talked here and there but finally found our way to each other at the end of March. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world.

juss me6 · #3 06-26-2012, 10:30 PM

Well we were living seperatly due to us marshalls looking for him and he didn't want me in trouble. We had wonderful communication. Would be on the phone for hours and if not on the phone would be texting each other. He would come home some nights or I would go there though. I spent valentines night with him next day he's not answering my texts they got him =(

Gregsgirlx3 · #4 06-26-2012, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Purplegirl1008

Well we weren't together right before he got locked up. I had a boyfriend and he was off and on with his son's mom. I was absolutely crazy about him though, but since I couldn't be with him I tried to be happy with my boyfriend. He got locked up and his son's mom abandoned him. We talked here and there but finally found our way to each other at the end of March. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world.

Aww good for you

best wishes to you both!

Gregsgirlx3 · #5 06-26-2012, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by juss me6

Well we were living seperatly due to us marshalls looking for him and he didn't want me in trouble. We had wonderful communication. Would be on the phone for hours and if not on the phone would be texting each other. He would come home some nights or I would go there though. I spent valentines night with him next day he's not answering my texts they got him =(

I'm so sorry. That's hard! I hope things start looking up for you both.

Purplegirl1008 · #6 06-26-2012, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Gregsgirlx3

Aww good for you

best wishes to you both!

Thank you! We have 49 days and a wake up now! Good luck to you too (:

nellyboy · #7 06-27-2012, 12:09 AM

We had just finished having our house built, and moved in about 2 weeks prior. He was out on SElf surrender. So we knew it was coming. He was happy to get to spend a few nights at the new house. I will keep it all nice and pretty for his return in 29 months.

Scotties_Girl21 · #8 06-27-2012, 05:56 AM

I was 6 months pregnant. We were fighting a lot because of shit that happened in the past but we were just starting to move past it. He had a great job offer that would've landed us our own place. But instead he landed himself in prison and put both our plans on hold.

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

sarbear831 · #9 06-27-2012, 07:19 AM

We were doing very well. We were starting to get wedding plans together and talking about having a baby! Then bam he went back on a PV

1 more day and a wake up... less than 48 hours until i pick him up!!!!

beddatroid · #10 06-27-2012, 08:43 AM

Sarbear yur sooo lucky.. I can't wait t b able t say 1 day n a wake up till my man's home but yet I have no idea wen that's goin t b due t him not even being sentenced yet =[[ grrr! I bet its the longest day of yur life tho lol.. =]] anways before my man got locked up we hadn't even sed I love yu even tho I was head ova heels fo him.. afta 9 days of no contact due t them not putting my number on his fone etc I finally seen him fo the first time in the court room infront of the judge where he was refused bail.. he thought I had left him behind cause I deserved beta n was shocked t c me there t stand by his side.. wen I was escorted into the court room he cried n yelled across the room I LOVE YU! Before they escorted him thru the bak door.. =D those three words changed my life completely that day n they were definitely worth waiting fo.. =]]

sarbear831 · #11 06-27-2012, 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by beddatroid

Sarbear yur sooo lucky.. I can't wait t b able t say 1 day n a wake up till my man's home but yet I have no idea wen that's goin t b due t him not even being sentenced yet =[[ grrr! I bet its the longest day of yur life tho lol.. =]] anways before my man got locked up we hadn't even sed I love yu even tho I was head ova heels fo him.. afta 9 days of no contact due t them not putting my number on his fone etc I finally seen him fo the first time in the court room infront of the judge where he was refused bail.. he thought I had left him behind cause I deserved beta n was shocked t c me there t stand by his side.. wen I was escorted into the court room he cried n yelled across the room I LOVE YU! Before they escorted him thru the bak door.. =D those three words changed my life completely that day n they were definitely worth waiting fo.. =]]

OMG the day is actually going by pretty fast, tomorrow will drag!!

Sorry to hear about your story! That has to be soooo hard! At least he got to say I Love You!!! I hope you get some news soon on how long he is in for!!

4_U_2_Envie · #12 06-27-2012, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Gregsgirlx3

This may have been posted before but I'm just curious.

So what was going on in your life right before your man got locked up?

For me: we found out we were pregnant again. We were then planning on visiting our parents to tell them the great news but yeah didn't get to it.

Well before mine was locked up we were pregnant also and he was so excited he couldn't believe it. Unfortunately he got locked up before his daughter was born. He see her now because I want them to build a firm father daughter relationship which is in the process

aaakr12 · #13 06-27-2012, 09:59 AM

We moved in together a week before he was locked up - we were 5 months pregnant with our daughter and things had been hard, financially...but we had just gotten on track and everything was about to get much, much easier.

sigh. Hindsight is a b*tch.

TeamKH2 · #14 06-27-2012, 10:07 AM

Sounds like several of you ladies were doing well before your men were locked up. For my man and I, things were rough. We had all the love in the world between us, but financially, things were hard. His job wasn't giving him the hours he needed, I was in a car accident before his trial started (essentially ruining his car), and my mother and I had become estranged. We were staying with his sister at the time who hated us being there and reminded us constantly by ignoring us, even when family was around. I'm 22 and finished undergrad last summer, so this chaos was preventing me from enrolling in a law program. Now that he's away, it's actually given us a fresh start, allowed me to move back in with my mother and to try to get back into school. He's motivated, now, to use some connections he's got to get a better job in the future, so it's crazy how things worked out. The incarceration itself sucks, but it's kind of been helpful in getting us to focus on our goals.

nakeisha99 · #15 06-27-2012, 10:08 AM

Well, that was 12 years ago, but I was just under him all the time. We were pregnant with our son, teenagers, just having fun 18 and 19 years old at the time. Now I'm 30, he's 31 and we're just ready to put this jail stuff behind us already.

coleman8 · #16 06-27-2012, 11:05 AM

We were really getting our relationship started and 3 months into it, they got him. Just before they put him in the car he said I promise I'll be back if you want me!!!!! Needless to say I am waitin these last 71 days and a wake up for him to fulfill that promise and I absolutely want him back!!!!

tripsgirl · #17 06-27-2012, 11:13 AM

We were on drugs and pretty much fucking up our lives.
Now - he's in prison staying clean and trying to get his GED.
And I am clean and trying to find a job and start my life over.

Miss_Nique · #18 06-27-2012, 12:43 PM

Gosh, we had broken up 7days b4 he got locked up. We where goin thru alot n we had just found.out the sex of our child(aboy, what he's always wanted) 2days b4. I was 3months pregnant. We eventually got back together n im now waiting on us to b a family!!

canadiangirl098 · #19 06-27-2012, 01:32 PM

him and i had broken up earlier that year but got back to talking as friends in october and i had text him earlier that day and that night he ended up doing something that ended him up in jail before his court hearing later on in the month

tsears1 · #20 06-27-2012, 08:52 PM

Before he self surrendered we were in prelims for 5 months. Our relationship was overwhelmed with that huge weight on our shoulders. I was working freelance and strategically emptied my schedule during the last month he had out. We tried to make the best of it. He met my family. We went out with friends a lot. Spent all day, every day together. We read up a lot on prison and tried to both become mentally prepared. And lastly, we had a lot o sex

Tookie1132 · #21 06-27-2012, 10:20 PM

We had just come back from our dream vacation with the kids to Orlando. We hadn't even been back to work yet because we came back on a Wednesday and didn't have to be back at work till Monday. We went out and bought a new mattress Thursday and Friday he was arrested. He never did get to sleep on our new plush pillow top mattress. Every day I have ever spent with him has been one of the best days of my life, but I feel like the week before the arrest was the best week ever. We were finally able to afford to take the kids on a fabulous family vacation, we went shopping for our first new mattress together, it felt like we were on the right track financially and we were going places.

denisegallegos · #22 06-28-2012, 06:52 PM

My husband was starting up his business again, beginning of summer was coming. He is a tree trimmer. I was working a lot our communication was breaking down.
We were starting to fight and argue more. We didn't see eye to eye on anything.
We were spending more time apart too.
This is actually a blessing for us now.

novemberrain · #23 06-28-2012, 07:40 PM

We had broken up like a month and a half earlier, and we were starting to get close again, as friends. I loved him deeply, and I still do. We shared the most amazing day together, and we knew things were going to get hard as I was getting evicted and had to go back and live with my Mom. But that day/night was incredible, and it was starting to get closer to us being together again... and then he made a mistake and ended up getting arrested. I will still stand by him and be there for him in every way that I can, as I get my own life together and try to become a strong, independent woman. Though it has been hard lately, I know things will become better for us both before long.

wife2mikey · #24 06-28-2012, 08:35 PM

Well after dating for 2 1/2 yrs we finally got married (knowing sometime he would have to go to prison but we didn't know when or for how long) and before our 3 month anniversary he got the letter and had a wk before he had to show up at court. We had just bought a car, settled into our house, and had yet to go on our honeymoon b/c of work. Then he was gone...9 years and counting.

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NicolelovesDee · #25 06-28-2012, 11:19 PM

We had just gotten engaged 3 days b4 he got locked up

Honestly tho this may be sad to say but weve done better since he's been there I honestly believe it was the best thing, we were both trying to quit drugs, but was hard bc the people we were living with... but with him getting locked up were both clean now 10 months

And who knows if he hadnt got locked up we may both be in there... we was runnin with some real shady people... So in a way it was kind of a blessing in disguise I think thats how to put it... dont get me wrong not glad hes there, just know how much its changed the both of us.