Help! MWI Relationships are new to me

[Conn_girl]

Hello ladies please I need some help! Lol Ok I'll tell alittle about me. English is my 3 language I know I'll make some mistakes. Lol I found out this inmate pen pal on April and thought would be cool to know someone thru letter and get better in English .after searching for a long time for a pp that wasn't look for a something more than a friend. I wrote him a letter and we start from there, he is awesome and like to flirt a lot but I always made very clear that I'm just a friend. But I develop some feelings from him that I wasn't expecting I think I'm fallin for him , he always make complement about me and today I got a letter saying that he want to do sky dive ( I told him I'll do this summer) and he would like to do with a girlfriend and he want to do it with me. And on the same letter he tells me he might get out next week that he got a "yes" vote from the parole ( I don't know how that works) this is too much to sink in. And he ask me for my cell # I want you guys to tell me if I"m too exited for nothing. I''m happy with all this I got 3 letters in 1 week!!! This never happended befor... Lol I live in ct and he is tx we are so far away... I'm lost

[ahora2012]

he is gettting out next week?
parole? probation?
is he in a county facility or a state prison? how long have you been writing him?
yes from parole?? - typically is within 1-3 months before their release - he will know exactly when he is to leave if he was granted parole.
can you give a litle more info - so we can give you better input.

[Conn_girl]

He serve a 11 years of 15 and he is in a county facility this is what re wrote me " I got a letter from my lawyer that the first parole board member voted yes. All together there is 5 and all I need is 2 votes in my favor to be given parole." he said too "the main meeting was pas wednesday . And this coming week will be another metting." I'm telling you all this but I really don't understand how all this work. We have been writing to each other only 3 months...

[Ms. Tazzie]

Where would he be living if granted parole?? This would be a long distance relationship,,, how good are you with that?? Do you visit?? No talking on telephone?? Further explain your sense of lost......

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by Conn_girl

Hello ladies please I need some help! Lol Ok I'll tell alittle about me. English is my 3 language I know I'll make some mistakes. Lol I found out this inmate pen pal on April and thought would be cool to know someone thru letter and get better in English .after searching for a long time for a pp that wasn't look for a something more than a friend. I wrote him a letter and we start from there, he is awesome and like to flirt a lot but I always made very clear that I'm just a friend. But I develop some feelings from him that I wasn't expecting I think I'm fallin for him , he always make complement about me and today I got a letter saying that he want to do sky dive ( I told him I'll do this summer) and he would like to do with a girlfriend and he want to do it with me. And on the same letter he tells me he might get out next week that he got a "yes" vote from the parole ( I don't know how that works) this is too much to sink in. And he ask me for my cell # I want you guys to tell me if I"m too exited for nothing. I''m happy with all this I got 3 letters in 1 week!!! This never happended befor... Lol I live in ct and he is tx we are so far away... I'm lost

Slow down is my advice to you! You do not even really know this guy and if you stated that you only wanted to be friends, yet, you have flirted with him, in my opinion, you have been leading him on. I know you said you think you are starting to have feelings for him, and that is all fine and dandy, but do NOT jump into a relationship with this guy.

It is always exciting when someone shows interest in us, especially if they are really nice and caring. We want to think "Romeo" has shown up and we have waited all our lives for him.

I believe you would be wise to continue to get to know him and if he does get out next week, cool. I do not see there being any reason to "claim" him and start a relationship right off the bat. He needs time to adjust to being in the outside world, hell, he may choose to date others, depending on how long he has been down.

Again, I would not jump into a relationship with him, just yet. Allow your frienship to grow and if you are meant to be together, you will be.

Peace~

[ahora2012]

3 months - i would slow it down - 3 months of letters is not a long time to know someone - so if he gets out soon, then start from there - but that will be a process as he has alot to deal with coming home .
all the best.

[jandj10]

Thats alot to take in,3 months is not along time to get to know someone. he was in for 11 yrs. getting out is going to be a huge adjustment for him,is this something your up for? If it was me i would slow down,and get to know him alittle better and see how things go with him being out.

[Psychocandy]

Id slow down some.

[Conn_girl]

Hi ladies!! thank you so much.. I got carry away with all this, I'll take things slowly!! I just found out on Friday that he will be FREE in 12 DAYSSS. I'm nervous! lol