Notice to new members intending to register - from January 9th 2012

Kendra121 · #1 07-13-2012, 09:39 PM

I don't know much about this website and spent the day exploring it (accidentally found it while googling something), and although I have a lot more to look at, I just wanted to thank you all for the encouragement I've been seeing in MWI posts.
I met my boyfriend while he was in prison, he has about 2 years left. One of my friend's fiance is also locked up and introduced us, so to speak. We started writing as penpals May 2011, starting talking on the phone that July and I visited for the first time a few months ago. Not sure when we became an official "couple" but I love him like crazy! Things have been hard lately and no one seems to understand what I'm going through, so I tend to not talk about my relationship much.
It's great to see so many men and women in similar situations who understand. What a great website!

Kendra121 · #2 07-13-2012, 09:41 PM

Oops.. I should have put this in the introduction post! But as my username suggests, my name is kendra!

Jootje · #3 07-13-2012, 10:05 PM

Welcome to PTO Kendra!!!

I think a lot of women/men come here because they do not get enough support or understanding at home from family and friends and even if they do, somehow the woman here just have a better feeling of what you are going through.

Most women/men here go through a rollercoater with great highs and lows but there are always so many wonderfull, sweet members to give advice, lift your spirit or bring a smile on your face.

nicenjazzy · #4 07-13-2012, 10:19 PM

Welcome to PTO. Hope you find all the support and info you need here. They've been a blessing to me for years. Look forward to seeing you around lol

jandj10 · #5 07-14-2012, 02:21 AM

Welcome to pto!!!

**Patty** · #6 07-14-2012, 02:24 AM

Hi Kendra and welcome to PTO and the MWI forum. You've come to the right place for information and support. Best of luck to you as you continue along your MWI journey...

**number8** · #7 07-14-2012, 02:39 AM

Hi Kendra, welcome to PTO, so glad you found this site :-)

rainweaver2002 · #8 07-14-2012, 07:48 AM

Hi, Kendra

mallafri · #9 07-14-2012, 11:20 AM

This is a great place to share your thoughts and feelings, come for support or just to vent, so welcome to the PTO family!

lil peep · #10 07-14-2012, 05:16 PM

Welcome to our little corner of PTO

Hope to see you stick around!

Kendra121 · #11 07-14-2012, 09:58 PM

I'll definitely be sticking around, although I might need some more time before I'm totally warmed up and post a lot. Everyone seems to sweet! I never knew that there were so many people in similar situations to mine. My friends & family tend to think I'm insane when I say I plan to be with my MWI boyfriend long term.

There are probably threads that I can read but do you all have any tips for how to handle arguments? It's hard for me to deal with the fact that we don't have much time on the phone, so we don't have much time to really hash things out. He likes to sort of drop the issue and acts as if it didn't happen. Maybe that is what works best. What do you guys do?

We don't fight a lot. Actually, we don't really fight at all. But tend to argue about things like money, when I can visit, etc. (typical I'm sure).

Thanks again, everyone!

I also see that many MWI relationships have major distance in them.. mine is in another state but only about an hour away. Kudos to the ones that have MUCH more distance than that!

lil peep · #12 07-14-2012, 10:59 PM

Patty just started a thread on communication and how we all do so with our loved ones. It's a good place to start and get ideas about communicating better as well as what things we're trying to improve on. You can't sweep things under the rug and expect them to go away. They never do...they morph into bigger issues. You have to talk about the problems you're having even if it's uncomfortable.