Future not as you pictured

[missingaj7]

I have always been the type to think about the future. I always thought about me going to college ( which I still am) graduating & my man being there and then get my career started and have my first child all by the age of 25 at the latest. Me and my man talked about this and he always says the best stuff to me. He is about to take a plea bargen for 5 to 10 years... I'm going to be 22 in nov and he just turned 24. Were still young. But obv my plan since before I met him 2 years ago isn't going to happen in the time i want or planned it too. I know that happens to everyone and alot of things DNt go as planned. Some days I look at it as day by day moment by moment. I look at it as I'm still getting the future I want with the man I want & love. But on days where I'm feeling down I get sad, and even a little mad scared. Does anyone else ever feel like this? My man always makes me feel better about it, and I love him to death and dont want to be with out him. But is this normal?? Lol

[allmylove2020]

Yes, its normal and your going to go through an emotional rollercoaster, but if you can keep the future in mind along with keeping the communication open between the two of you you'll be gold. None of us lanned to be here hun, even some of our men who did the crime, but shit happpens and we're all human an make mistakes. Good luck stay strong, finish school, and get ready for him to come back home (thats what I'm doing). Best of luck, I wish I could say it gets easier, but its more like you learn to cope an adjust.

[Just Jen]

There is a saying that goes, "We plan, God laughs." There are any number of things that keep life from playing out the way we plan, and this will not be the last one unfortunately. At 41 years of age, I have come to realize that while I may plan this or that, I need to allow my mind to be more flexible and accepting to the unexpected. When I was younger like you, I would get upset and anxious and sometimes even mad about how life would throw hurdles between me and the goals I had set before me. Your feelings over it are very normal.

[Damask8]

Just take a look at my signature. You can plan all you want, but its never going to be what you thought it would have been.

[CVicioso89]

Honestly the time before we took the plea was worse for me than any other time even now that he's in except the night before he went. I am also a planner so the uncertainty was worse for me than when I actually for sure knew what was going to happen this is now easy for me it's all waiting and down hill from here after about the first two months you get adjusted it'll b ok I don't think anyone plans their life with the intent of their lover doing a prison sentence :/