The getting to know you questionnaire

[michellelynnwil]

The getting to know you questionnaire

1. Can you please explain your user name?it is my name

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)don't know how to do it yet

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?fiance

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?5 months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?14 months and two weeks

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? poss of cocaine base for sale

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?california

9. How often do you visit your loved one? none yet 1st one in july

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share coming on pto daily

[*Johnny's Angel*]

The getting to know you questionnaire

1. Can you please explain your user name? I used to do everything I could for John Like i was his guardian Angel. Whatever he needed I was there

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) I dont know

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?ex girlfriend but still love him to death

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?1 in and out on diff programs

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?8 days parole or 2 yrs 5 months max

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? he got sentanced to posession of CDS with intent w/i 500ft of public housing or something.. luckily it wasnt all 13 other counts

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Jersey

9. How often do you visit your loved one? used to visits everyday day there was visits, haven't visited him in a month

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Honestly I was weak, I had to let go

[Ruffian]

1. Can you please explain your user name? When I was a little kid, my favorite racehorse was the filly "Ruffian" who broke her leg during a match race with a colt in 1975. She had so much heart she kept running even though her leg was broken. She later had to be put down

2. Can you please explain your avatar? It is a photograph of the racehorse named "Ruffian"

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? Friend, advocate , teacher

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? From 1 year all the way up to ten years (several different people)

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? Various (several different people)

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? All but one of them guilty and all but one of them taking responsibility for their crimes. The one, a doctor, was convicted of illegally prescribing controlled medications to people but he prescribed meds (over the internet) to people he believed were legitimately in need of pain medications. I think what knocked him down in court was that he diagnosed the patients over the phone rather than in person.

7. What are the charge(s)? Various (mostly drug-related, one for a sex offense, one for aggravated assault)

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? All in Texas

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Some I try to visit weekly; some I visit monthly; others I don't visit but correspond with or talk on the phone with.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! I make it a point to be the "rock" for them. The ones I work with don't have familes, or don't have families interested in their welfare. I don't think I could be as strong, though, if they were my own blood or my spouse. I don't know how you ladies and gentlemen do it--I so admire the perserverance and faith that so many of you have. You just hang in there and you don't let anyone beat you down...I fight the machine and I don't let it beat me down either, but the big difference is that while I love my students and clients, they aren't my blood or my spouse. I don't know if my back is that strong. You all have my greatest respect for simply keeping on and standing by your loved ones in the face of society's disdain. I've seen family members treated like trash by staff on visiting days, as if somehow the family members weren't "as good as them" just because their loved ones were incarcerated. It makes me sad to hear them talked down to and spoken to with disrespect. Not all staff do this, of course, but the ones who do are unkind and wrongly judgemental.
I'm always in awe of the families who forge on, despite the obstacles.

Ruffian

[Jillian]

1. Can you please explain your user name? My husband name is E and i am his wife and our daughter was born in 03

2. Can you please explain your avatar? Eminem when he was a lil boy.. I love eminem cuz no matter what he goes thru his family always come first.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? Husband

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? 2 yrs and 8mths

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? depends if we win the appeal then he will be home in 2 years if not then he will have 5 more before parole.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? No, he was on an accesory but since the guy killed himself they gave my husband his charges.

7. What are the charge(s)? Husband- agg robbery
8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Texas,

9. How often do you visit your loved one? We visit him 2 times a mth..

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! I have my daughter who keeps me strong thru this whole process and even though my husband is not here he is a big part of my coping for we write all the time and he supports me and makes me feel better when i am depressed..

[Slashley]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Nickname my friends call me due to my name, Ashley (which I'm sure you've all figured out by now!)
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
My nickname for my boyfriend is Moth
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
My boyfriend
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
2
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
just a few days.....until the 25th!!
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
yup
7. What are the charge(s)?
driving the wrong person's car
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Alabama
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
every 2 weeks
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I just pretty much keep myself occupied, follow my dreams, and don't forget to live!! It's him that's locked up, not me!

[Diane93635]

1. Can you please explain your user name? Diane is my first name and 93635 is my zip code.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) I don't have one because I don't know how to get one... Anyone wanna tell me... hee-hee

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? I am his lady.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? 14 1/2 years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? Life sentence

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty of 3 and innocent of 3. (6 charges all together)

7. What are the charge(s)? 2 robberies, 2 grand theft autos, one burglary, and one 1 st degree murder.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? California

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Usually twice a month.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! PTO of coarse...

[honeychild]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
I'm a southern gal....it reminds me of the "old South"...
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
working on it....
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
My boyfriend
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
11 months
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
has a TPM of:JUNE 2005...nothing has happened yet....we're just waiting. Max out date: 10/2005
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
yes
7. What are the charge(s)?
violation of parole (out of state, no permission)
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Georgia
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
I saw him once while he was still in the county, last year...none since.
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I pray hard for strength and sanity!! I remember that this is only temporary.

[Pfunksgirl]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
P stands for Philip ...Funk is his last name and i'm his girl
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
a pic of me and him
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
My husband to be
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
this time hes been in for 15 months
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
9 more months to go
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
depends on whos point of view you see it from
7. What are the charge(s)?
felonious assult/parole violation
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Ohio
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
I saw him once but havent been back since i got my license suspended
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I write him everyday and tell him how my day went so he feels like he was there and he does the same..I pray everyday for his safety and health ...I work and keep myself busy and wait for his return home...but i was going through counseling....

[cryinblueeyes]

1. Can you please explain your user name? When Jerry left Massachusetts it was in the pouring rain and I was cryin. That was 4 years ago, but while registering here, I thought of that day....

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) I haven't found one that fits me yet.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? Bestfriend, recently turned man which I will say I have been in love with him for years.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? 1yr. 4mo.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? 8mo. 3wks.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty, but he took all charges so his (soon to be ex) wife wouldn't go back to jail.

7. What are the charge(s)? Possession of Meth. while on parole.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? California

9. How often do you visit your loved one? I haven't been to see him yet
was suppose to go this week, but friend backed out on me...plan to go in september.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! PTO of course, Letters, weekly phone calls, and POETRY....I've never written so much poetry for a man But he loves it.
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[PowandVonne]

1. Can you please explain your user name? Pow is my husbands name, and Vonne is short for my name (Shavonne)

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) Just a pic of me

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? I am his wife

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? 11 yrs

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? Maybe one more month, maybe 2 yrs. We will know after the parole hearing in 2 weeks.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? Attmepted Murder

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? New York

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Every 2 weeks

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! Not really. I just do whatever works at that time. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with, but it has made me such a strong person.

[monet420]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Monet is my daughter middle name
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
I choose mine because the girl looks like me and it has my name in it
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
My boyfriend is locked up
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
2.5 years
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
2.5 years
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
guilty
7. What are the charge(s)?
Cultivating,(?sp) distrbuting(?sp), carry a hand gun
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?California
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
1-2 a month
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
I just keep my self very busy it helps with making the time go by. I love to write to him tell him how my day is going what i am doing at that very moment it makes me feel closer to him But i have to say just staying busy helps me alot

[Texxie]

1. Can you please explain your user name? I live in Texas and I just thought it sounded cute and friendly.
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) I don't have one yet because I haven't gotten around to it! I've got a couple in mind, though, so hopefully it won't be long.
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? He is my fiancé and best friend.
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? Four months of a 12-23 sentence. He'll get the minimum if he behaves!
5. How many years does your loved one have to go? He has just a little less than 8 months until the minimum has been served.
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? He is guilty, alright, the big doofus.
7. What are the charge(s)? Third DUI.
8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Clinton or Centre County in Pennsylvania.
9. How often do you visit your loved one? I don't get to visit him. He is in PA and I am in Texas and it's really expensive to fly. I'll be there when he gets out, but right now we survive on phone calls and letters.
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! I write to him every day and I belong to several prison sites. It's comforting to be able to talk about him in a non-judgmental forum. I guess the biggest coping mechanism I have is a good relationship with his mother. We e-mail every day and phone once in awhile and share information. It's nice to talk to someone who loves him every bit as much as I do. I really don't know how I would have made it without her.

[kam]

1) My user name is my initials.
2) I don't have one
3) He is my husband of 10 years
4) He's looking at 3 years
5) Still has all 3 left
6) guilty
7) Charges were embezzelment, fraud, and forgery.
8) State of Minnesota
9) I visit once a week while he finishes his state sentence then I hope to visit every weekend once he is transferred to federal.
10) My two little boys keep me sane. Without them I would probably close out the entire world.

[Texxie]

1. Can you please explain your user name? I live in Texas!

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) Um, just haven't gotten around to it yet...lol. Can't find one that suits me.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? My fiancé.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? Six months.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? Six MORE months.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty.

7. What are the charge(s)? Third DUI.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Pennsylvania.

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Never.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! You mean besides PTO? I also have a livejournal (Xanga) where I am a member of a blog called Prison Blues Sisterhood. I'm in daily contact with his mom and sister, which helps. And I am a member of a church full of wonderful people.

[marcsbaby]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
I am "Marc's baby"

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
Um, I can't remember what it is right now? LOL

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
I am his wife

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
Over a year now

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
2 and 1/2 years

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Innocent of the charge he was convicted of, guilty of simple assault.

7. What are the charge(s)?
He was charged with First Degree Murder, Convicted of Assault With A Deadly Weapon With Intent to Kill Inflicting Serious Injury

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
North Carolina

9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Every single week since he has been gone

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!
PTO, Of course!...also, I stay busy with school. I also try to spend my time doing constructive things for myself and for my husband....to help better our future

~katie

[irisheyes220]

1. Can you please explain your user name? I am irish, I have green eyes and 220 used to be the first three numbers in my phone number.

2. Can you please explain your Avatar? Actually I dont think I have one, no perticular reason.

3.What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? He's got me, and I got him!

4.How many years has your loved one been in prison? 18 1/2 years

5.How many years does your love one have to go? Without Appeal..... Natural Life

6.Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charger(s) he was convicted of? Innocent of the crime, guilty of bad choices

7.What are the charge(s)? Aggravated 1st Degree Murder

8.In What State is your loved one doing time? Washington

9.How often do you visit your loved one? Every 3 to 4 months

10.Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Like everyone I suppose writing letters helps I am indifferent when it comes to my situation, I just accept it, and deal with it like I do everything in life, I just accept it as my path and walk it with my head up.

[one_luv]

Can you please explain your user name? I believe there is one world, one race and one love. It's something we all share. Also, my husband is my one true love.
2. Can you please explain your Avatar? I keep changing it. Now it's a drawing titled "stolen". Fits our situation.
3.What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? I'm his wife.
4.How many years has your loved one been in prison? 5 1/2 yrs.
5.How many years does your love one have to go? 7 1/2 yrs.
6.Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charger(s) he was convicted of? Innocent of that particular crime, but guilty of being a gangsta (happily reformed now,I might add). He looked guilty, that's what mattered.
7.What are the charge(s)? aggravated assault and armed robbery
8.In What State is your loved one doing time? Oregon
9.How often do you visit your loved one? Every 2-3 months
10.Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? I keep really busy and surround myself with my family (sisters, nieces and nephews) and my daughter and her friends. I have made a lot of positive changes since he's been locked up. It's my responsibility to live and build a future for both of us. I never loose sight that eventually he will be coming home and in my arms every night, until then, I need to do whatever I can to make sure we have a good life now and when he comes home.

[Billswife]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
Bill is my husbands name.
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
I don't know what that is.
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
My husband, the love of my life.
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
This is his 4th bit, he has been in 1 month so far.
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
Only a couple more months I hope.
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty
7. What are the charge(s)?
Parole violation for failure to pay child support. He was trying, just didn't make enough in time.
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
IL
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
He is still in receiving.
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! Lately I have been spending a lot of time with my parent's. When I am home I tend to drink, which is not a good way to deal I know.

[Ravenslove]

1. Can you please explain your user name? Raven is my love's tribal name

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) everyone was so cute, I wanted something to say warrior and fighter

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? soul mate, future husband

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? 10 years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? 2 years

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
both, guilty of two or the three.

7. What are the charge(s)? fel assault, agg burg and the one he is innocent of

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Ohio

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Not allowed to visit.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! Talking with my best friend.

[lovesyou]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
LOVESYOU....BECAUSE I LOVE MY RAY..I ALWAYS TELL HIM SOMEONE LOVES YOU
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
I HAVENT GOT ONE YET
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
FELL IN LOVE WITH MY PEN PAL
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
8
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
PAROLE IN 2007
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
NOT GUILTY
7. What are the charge(s)?
AGG.SEXUAL ASSAULT TO A MINOR
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
TEXAS
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
EVERY SUNDAY

[Lillybee]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
A name I read in a novel.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

Don't know how to do it.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

Mother

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

Five months

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

9

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

I know he is not guilty of raping the woman (girlfriend), but he is guilty of physically fighting with her.


7. What are the charge(s)?

Rape (2 counts), Attempted Rape, Kidnapping, Burglary, Felonious Assault.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

Ohio

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

Once a month


10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share

No, not really. I tell myself that God allowed this for a reason and that somehow this is an answer to prayers prayed for him for a long time. That something good will come from this.

[levisgurl85]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

Levi is my soon to be husband and I was born in 85.


2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

I don't have one b/c I don't know how to put one on here yet. LOL

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

Im his soon to be wife.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

His been in for 4 1/2 mouths.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

He got sentenced to 14 mouths but he goes to court next mouth for judicial release so we will have to wait and see how that turns out.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

Innocent.... His car never touched the other to cars.

7. What are the charge(s)?

Agg Veh Assault.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

Ohio.

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

When ever I can once or twice a mouth.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

Writing him letters, talkin on the phone, and visitin him.

[missmyhubby]

1. Can you please explain your user name?

When I first signed on to this site, I was missing my baby soooo much. So the first name that came to my mind was MISSMYHUBBY!!

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)

It's a picture of me. I liked my smile on that particular picture.

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?

His Wife

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?

8 years

5. How many years does your loved one have to go?

He will be released October 23, 2005!! I'm so excited!!!


6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?

He was guilty.

7. What are the charge(s)?

Assault and Battery

8. In what state is your loved one serving time?

Michigan

9. How often do you visit your loved one?

Twice a month.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!

I keep myself busy. I work a lot of overtime and I'm in school.

[Retired-25]

1. Can you please explain your user name? We were high school sweethearts who tried several times over the years to get back together and we're FINALLY getting married...so that's how I chose Fate4Us.

2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?) It changes sometimes, but I chose this one because it says true love is 4ever...and he's been my true love for the past 15 years, which seems like forever!

3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one? Hubby-to-be's in one prison, cousin's in another.

4. How many years has your loved one been in prison? Hubby - a total of almost 9 yrs. Cousin - 3 years.

5. How many years does your loved one have to go? Hubby - 6 months. Cousin - 3 years.

6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of? Guilty

7. What are the charge(s)? Ehh, a few different things.

8. In what state is your loved one serving time? Ohio

9. How often do you visit your loved one? Visit my baby every single week.

10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share! Take it day by day, talking and writing A LOT, spending a lot of time on PTO where there's so much understanding and support, and knowing that each day is one more closer to their homecomings.

[nikangelle]

1. Can you please explain your user name?
My name is Nikol, and I love angels.
2. Can you please explain your avatar? (If you don't have one, why not?)
It's a fairy that I was told looks like me. She represents how lonley and sad I have been without my husband.
3. What is your relation to your incarcerated loved one?
I am his loyal and loving wife.
4. How many years has your loved one been in prison?
12 long agonizing years.
5. How many years does your loved one have to go?
10 months
6. Is your loved one innocent or guilty of the charge(s) that he was convicted of?
guilty for being there, but innocent of the actual crime he ended up being charged with.
7. What are the charge(s)?
2nd degree murder
8. In what state is your loved one serving time?
Florida
9. How often do you visit your loved one?
Twice a week
10. Do you have a favorite strategy that assists you in coping with having your loved one in prison? Please share!We talk daily, see each other as often as we can, and I make sure he is included in everything I do.