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BiggSugaMama · #51 11-12-2004, 08:46 PM

I've been there before, every time he went to jail, even though this is his first prison term, those were hard enough. I told him after about 3 times in county jail, that I would leave him if ever he went again. However, every time something happened, as it always did, I would be there waiting when he got out, and be there most every visiting day. Since he went to prison, and has had his sentence changed and extended like 3 times already, I did tell him we were done, and stopped writting and visiting. But I am too deep in love, and care to much about this man to let 7 years of prison keep us apart. If he were to have to do another sentence, I'm sure I would stick it out with him, only better than I did this time. This was both of our first time experiences, and I know that I have learned alot of the what to do and what not to do or say things.

Luann · #52 11-12-2004, 09:53 PM

Hopefully it will never happen again, but if it did I would wait for him, He is the only man for me!

Alynn528 · #53 11-13-2004, 02:17 AM

Nope I would not be doing this again...Because I did it once with a ex boyfriend of mine, and now again with my hubby...if my hubby goes back in I will not be doing this crap for the third time..he would be on his own. Sorry!!!

~AmariJ~ · #54 11-13-2004, 02:56 PM

I could never leave him by himself. I would be upset. But I cant see myself leaving him.

rays_babygirl · #55 11-13-2004, 08:05 PM

I would not like to go through this again but if he ever goes back once he is home I will be there for him like I am now. I love that man to death and will do anything for him.

babieboo · #56 11-15-2004, 11:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.B

I sure hope I never have to do this again. But I love this man so much. I will follow him where ever he goes. BUt trust me I would probably pop him upside his head a couple of times before they got him ( its kind of hard to do while visiting--) I might not be so nicey nicey for awhile-- but it all boils down to I love him to much to leave.

LOL!! I would beat his head too!

Jillian · #57 11-15-2004, 12:30 PM

i say no because we both decided that we will never put our child thru this again.

e-jays girl · #58 11-15-2004, 12:50 PM

H-ll Nooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

qwerty · #59 11-15-2004, 03:26 PM

NOOOO WAY! One time round is plenty, thank you very much...

SWEETTEMPEST03 · #60 11-15-2004, 03:41 PM

I Think That Ifi Had To Do It Again I Would...he Means The World To Me...i Know That I Am Young And There Are Plenty Of Fish In The Sea But I Want This One...it Has Been Real Hard Without Him And I Am About To Go Through One Of The Most Terrible Break Downs Ever...but I Juss Think Of Him And What He Has Sacrificed For Me And I Feel That I Owe Him...he Would Stand By Me And I Am Definately Gonna Stand By Him...it Seems Sometimes That I Am All He Has And I Am Never Gonna Juss Drop Him Like A Dime..

23 Months Til My Baby Comes Home And We Begin Our Journey Of Happiness Togeather

bluesapphires4 · #61 11-15-2004, 03:44 PM

YES, in a heartbeat without even thinking about it. Marriage is for better or worse. A little over 11 years in and only 9 more years to go. He promised that he will never go back, but in case anything would happen, I would be right by his side.

MsAloha1018 · #62 11-16-2004, 01:03 AM

To be honest, I'm not sure I'd have the capacity to go through this again, as deeply and passionately as I feel for him. Going through this the first time made me feel like my guts were being torn out through my nose every single day. But you know what? I probably would go through it again with him. Dummy me.

HOWEVER, this is not to say that he isn't going to hear the end of it! If he ever had to go back to prison I would chew his haole asp out so BADLY that he'll be glad he's locked up and away from me!!!

amznbert · #63 11-16-2004, 10:02 AM

No becouse i will not let him get involved with the same kind of person that put him there in the first place....

hEadOveRheAls · #64 11-16-2004, 04:08 PM

No. I wouldnt wait. Unless it was something way out of the ordinary... If he truly loves me then he would do everything in his power not to mess up again. He knows how much pain im going through, and any one that loves any one wouldnt want them to have to go through this.

mz.k · #65 11-16-2004, 07:53 PM

Right now I would say no............But 18 months ago he went in and did 6 months and I told him that would be the last time. And of course it was not. So I would have to Im unsure. It would depend on the circumstance and how time he had.

LovingSoul4u2 · #66 11-19-2004, 06:16 PM

There is a somewhat favor for you standing by your husband/boyfriend if this was to ever happen again. I know we all told them that we would NEVER go through this again but I love my husband unconditionally. I told him that DOC wouldn't have the chance to get him again because I would kill him first, but I know within my heart I'd be there for him. I agree with a lot of you in your saying that if this was to happen again he would not have respected and cherished the love the two of you had. But I also have to say there may be some circumstances beyond both of your control. I have known it to happen. I don't wish this h*ll on anyone, not now, not ever!!! Thanks for your candid and honest answers. I pray that this NEVER happens again in your lives. I have faith and believe that God has something greater for our men and they will see that "greatness" within themselves. But always know that:
"For as low as you go, ask God to take you that high."

mousies wife · #67 11-19-2004, 06:20 PM

nope no way, that would be a H*** no..... ugh

Jessakitty4946 · #68 11-20-2004, 12:02 AM

This is the second time we've gone through the prison ordeal and before that he was in & out of jail. This is so hard and I don't know if my emotional well being could handle a third round of prison time. I just hope and pray he straightens up and gets his life together this time when he gets out.

redredwine · #69 11-20-2004, 01:19 AM

I know this will be our last time doing this BUT if for some reason it did happen again I would be there for him. I love him and he is my husband for better or for worse.

Simpsonchick022 · #70 11-20-2004, 01:22 AM

Yes I would my soul is not whole wihtout him, but When he is out he is free, The state no longer owns him.

sickofprisons · #71 11-20-2004, 03:03 AM

I don't think so. (How's that for a definitive answer?

) This is not our first time, but in the past I sort of got through it by just sort of ignoring it. I kind of figured "So what? He's a drug addict anyway with all it entails- no emotional or financial support, never around since I don't use drugs, etc., so what difference does it make if he's in jail and at least I know where he is and he's not getting high?" This time though, I went through some major changes, and basically woke up. I let him know that I had had it and was through. I think he believes me, because he's still ion the halfway house but his attitude has done a 180 degree turn. We shall see. I love him but I love me, too.

Menia · #72 11-20-2004, 04:20 AM

There is no way I would go through this again. He made on mistake, shame on him, and I accepted that, but if the makes another mistake, and I accept it then the shame is on me. There will be no shame on me for anything he does ever again. If he does not value me enough to stay in the free world with me, then he does not value me at all. Life is to short to continually spend it waiting. Once he is released if he does not know how to live a life without crime, then I will show him, because I would leave him. I love him, but I am not going to tolerate it, he knows and accepts that. When he walks out of those doors he is going to have to decide what is more important. He knows that if it looks like he is falling back into his old life, then I will be gone in a heartbeat. I will not go through this again. I love him with all of my heart, but if he does something to go back, then I will consider it as a betrayal, and that would mean in my mind that he does not love me. I am standing by him and giving him what he needs now, but when he comes home, he is going to have to give me what I need.

pipkin · #73 11-20-2004, 05:50 AM

Amen.

Chit on me once, shame on you!
Chit on me twice, shame on me!

so my answer is NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

Tears_N_Texas · #74 11-20-2004, 02:52 PM

Before I married my husband I would of said NO WAY... I married him for better and for worse. I don't think it gets any worse than this. I pray that we never have to deal with this drama again.

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Originally Posted by LovingSoul4u2

This is my first time "doing" time with my husband. He has been to prison before but I wasn't in his life. I am wondering if you would do this again with your husband/boyfriend? I tell my husband that I would NEVER do this again but right now I know if it came to this again, I'd be there for him. This may be something that has been discussed before but I'd really like to know how many of you would go through this again? Needless to say we all tell them that we would never do this again, but would you?

"For as low as you go, ask God to take you that high."

anthonysgrl · #75 11-20-2004, 08:07 PM

This is the 2nd time for me and my man, I would do it again if we had to! I love him with all my heart, i could never leave him like that im the only one he has!