How would you react in this situation?

[sweetmaxy]

I need some advice, Sunday me and my husband was having a really nice visit as usual. We was standing in line to get some food from the vending machine when this female that was standing behind us started asking my husband questions about the food. I didnt think much about it at first. Me and my husband kept moving up in line holding hand and stealing kisses when nobody was looking. This female behind us found that she needed to get close enough to my husband where he had to back up and say excuse me. By this time I was asking him what he wanted, paying for the food, etc. This same female as we was finishing move in front of us and started messing with food before I had a chance to finished. So we got our stuff and walked away. I noticed that she had came to visit this guy with another female and a child but she didnt seem to interested at staying at the table talking. Everytime me and my husband would go to one of the machines or use the microwave oven some way some how she would end up near us. To the point where my husband sat down because he knew I was getting . We talked about it and it made him feel uncomfortable because he really didnt know how I would react to all this or how he should act. So I kept my cool even though I was hot inside. She kept getting up walking around the room and at one point went over to the kid area with a child and instead of having the chair in the direction of the play area she was sitting facing our way. My husband wouldnt even look that way because he knew she was tripping. How would you react to all this???

[fohnsgirl]

I would have been furious too. Sorry you had to deal with this. Some women, I swear.........

[sweetmaxy]

Thanks fohnsgirl ~ I was thinking maybe I was over reacting to the whole thing but today it still bothers me.

[haswtch]

You really have to wonder what in the world some people are thinking. Or IF they are thinking!!!

[JJsGB]

I'd have been furious too. I'd have asked her what she wanted. There's no reason for what she was doing. How rude and disrespectful to you. Some women are so scandalous. Sorry you had to experience this during your visit. I wish you better visits and not having to deal with crazy people.

Take care.
Tana

[littled73]

I might have lost my temper a little. But, in the prison, I would have made sure I got close to her next time she stood up and just kinda whispered to her that if she kept playing I would get her butt on the way home

[dlyles]

I would've been ticked myself. I wouldn't have said anything, as you didn't, but only because I wouldn't want to mess up future visits. If I was your husband I would've been mad too just for disrespecting you.

Oh yeah, I'm moving this to the husbands and wives forum also.

[flygirlaa2]

I am a little different, I would have been overly sweet to her and talked to her. I have had this happen and I just go out of my way to be sweet, make eye contact and smile like an idiot. Dont let them see you sweating it, they might take it as a sign of insecurity. I even had a female CO come into the little visiting room when I was visiting while he was in the hole. There was barely room for me in there and we only had a 2 hour visit. She just came right in and started a conversation with him.

[joenash4lyf]

I'm sorry about all of this, I would be so upset as well, I can't explain so women!! I'm sorry, I wouldn't have said anyting till we were in the parking lot and I wouldn't flip..I would just say like what was that all about!!! Ya know..Take care and God Bless

[strongernow]

Honestly, this would have bothered me too. Sometimes I think I am weird like that, but it would have!!! And I give you A LOT OF CREDIT for keeping it to yourself and not confronting her, because I probably would have!!!

[mafacb]

I give you alot of credit too, because I would've said something. That was strange though! Hopefully that won't happen again.

[Maggiebklyn24]

Some women I swear...!!!! I would not of been upset if anything I would of taken that as a sign of her jelousy . Maybe she does not have a boyfriend/husband in her life and needs to gawk at someone's else significant other. If she wanted a show i would of given her one. With some descretion of course. I would of kept kissing him, loving on him. Make her think twice again about gawking.

People have some nerve.

[rosiensmokee]

grrr I probably would've lost it and snapped.. Wtf was that girl thinking I would've said something I'm just over did jealous when it comes to things like that...

[jessesgirl4ever]

I would have kept my cool, but I would have kindly asked her " may I help you" maybe add a little sarcasm there.. man, some people!!!

[jftazzy102]

After I wiped the ground with her then I would have asked if I could help in something, because she sure seemed interested in our visit. Other than that not much....

[rywill]

sweetmaxy, girl your man must be FINE! For her to be salivating like that after him. I wouldn't have thought anything about it. Even though it would have annoyed me with her desparation. The fact that he recognized it, and withdrew would have been enough for me. He knows who he loves. Just think of it, you were the "envy" of the ball. That silly, trifling, low-grade, raggety, desperate ,no respect for herself-having, stalking, gwalking, loney, immature, groveling tramp wouldn't have gotten another thought from me. okay, enough said.

[MrsSweets]

EEK I would be super
What was this woman doing??? Offering herself??? Seems like it....
I'm a jealous girl. I trust my boyfriend with all my heart. He's never given me any reason not to. It's the others I don't trust!!!

[Willsgirl]

Honestly I would have wanted to act a fool and get loud, but I would have kept my cool and let it go, cause I dont want to waste my visits on nothing or noone that has nothing to do with us. He did the right thing when he stayed at the table when he saw what she was doing. I agree some women, dang cant she see he is taken, maybe youll get luck and bump into her out here then you can act a fool with her LOL

[jen70]

It amazes me some of the things we have to deal with in visits! What makes me the maddest though is waiting in line and dealing with the whole hassle of getting inside to see your man, then dealing with something like that! An outside influence causing stress for you and your man....you have WAY more patience than I would have!

[ellipanitz]

While I'm not the jealous type I am possive of the time I get to spend with my Sweetie. The CI where I visit has a no fratinization rule, which they don't really enforce, but it is on the books. I would have quietly said to her that her attention was against the rules and she might put her own visit in jeaopardy by being to close to us. If that didn't work I would have gone to a CO and under the pretext of getting the bathroom unlocked told about the unwanted attention and asked that it be stopped. After all I would have warned the woman. You just never know about some of these women. I hope your future visits go better. You were right to be upset, this woman way overstepped her boundries.

[Danip]

I would've said something to her she might not have liked...and then some. But at least your man ignored her and didn't give in. Some women are scandelous, I'm sorry you had to put up with that! Females, I swear, a lot tick me off..and I'm a female myself. If you see her again, tell her to get her own man!

[brownshuga27]

i wouldv'e been mad too (but not at him) . i dont have the patients for women like that!! i would have ignored her the first and second time, but the part where she moved her chair facing me and my man (oh hell no)thats disrespectful!! i would have got up and went over there to ask her what her problem was.what the hell does she need to ask him about the food for??? he dosent work for the vending company. she shouldv'e asked one of the co's since most of them are in visiting area all the time. seems to me she was trying to start something.

[sweetmaxy]

Wow! I want to thank everyone for your responses. It really cheered me up inside to have so much support from all of you. I didnt know if I was being overly jealous or was this women pushing up on my Pooh. My husband has been in prison for 9 years so as you can guess we really dont get a chance to get out in public much anymore and I've never encountered anything like this either. I try to take into account that my husband is a black man with green eyes so alot of times people are just curious and are trying to look into his face. In this situation it was a little different.
Truthfully I was going to check her on the way out the door but she left at the 2 oclock last call and I wasn't going to leave an hour earlier for her. Nor was I going to let her mess up my future visits. Next time I'll just trip her when she goes by... and do an

"Opps I'm so sorry"

Thanks again everyone you made me feel alot better just knowing other's understand.
Ohh and rywill you had me lmao! Thanks all!

[jeffsprincess]

The nerve of some people!!! I would have been pissed to, but if you see her again, just ignore her. Dont let this woman that apartently has no life, ruin your visit!

[HoldingHisHeart]

First I would be livid!!!!!!!!! I wouldn't want to react in fear of having visits taken away. That's terrible that she disrespected you and him.