How many of you have a loved one considered a Violent Offender?

[Ronnies Girl]

Ronnie is the love of my life. He was involved in an armed robbery. He was there and he did attempt the crime , but he had been up for 21 days on meth and bothced the whole thing and he was arrested; he was the only one who was hurt
by the police department. Since he had been convicted on drug charges in another state he had afterformers which greatly enhanced his sentence. Yes, I believe him and yes he is a completely different man from the man I first met 10 years ago. Together we are an unbeatable team and and together we will finish his time and build a life together. I am not the least bit afraid that he will hurt me or anyone else, but I fear everyday that he might not be able to handle the pressure of being in the free world. We practice the philosophy of one day at a time and today is all we have. Good luck and happines to all of us. Ronnies Girl

[samoanangel]

Originally Posted by marcsbaby

Marc was charged with murder and plead down to Assault with a Deadly weapon with intent to kill.....major BS...but I suppose they consider him a violent offender....I am just curious to see how many of us are in love with such "violent creatures!!!" LOL...I love my VO!
~Katie

Yeah they calling ma man a vialent future thrat for society but it´s all ****. He´s kinda big wild guy but he ain´t no vialent person, I know him since we was kidz.Alu i éi le ufa, he´s my to´alua and I know how he is. **** system the can olu e i le polo a lou tama..all of um

[Anhmh1]

I got a call that my bf went to jail due to a bar fight. He got charged with a felony and is now in Prison. His prior was beating up his aunts bf, because he sexually molested his niece. Well this bar fight happened when he and i separated and he was dating another fem. She was drunk and he had to leave from work to pick her up. SHe started arguing and hitting him so he got her in a head lock. Her friends got wind of everything and told the police that he was beating on her. I found out that he got into a fist fight with two of her guy friends. I have been with him for 2 years and havent seen any form of violence with him. He's a teddy bear. Big Lug!!!!!!!

[Tandapit]

I am in love with a violent offender. He is my everything. He is charged with shooting w/intent. He made a choice it was either his life or there's. He was put in a bad position and had been out of trouble for years when this incident occurred..I know that he would never hurt me in anyway..He is gentle and loving..And he most definately regrets what he did..My question is this HOW HARD WILL IT BE FOR US WHEN HE IS FREE? PEOPLE AUTOMATICALLY JUDGE AND THEY WILL ALWAYS USE IT AGAINST HIM ESPECIALLY SINCE HE HAS TO REGISTER AS A VIOLENT OFFENDER..SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON THIS???

[marcsbaby]

It has been my experience that Marc is judged a lot by his charges...people see violent crimes on his record and assume that he is a violent person. I believe that we may struggle with that our entire lives, but what I always remind myself is that I know the truth, and even though it will take some time, others will see past the charges and see the true person he is...if they can't get past the charges, they are not worthy of his friendship or company anyway....Just my thoughts on it!
~katie

[tubbysblanquita]

My brother in law is serving 6 years for corporal punishment of a co-habitant - violent offense at 85% - 2 strikes

ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[yaya/18]

My man is a VO so they say he's doing LWOP for first degree murder but they got him all twisted he's the nicest lovable sweetest man in the world. Watch one day he'll beat his appeal. One day

[tariy69]

I am very much in love with my violent offender. Theres a pending case their trying to put off on him, the brutal death of a close friend. Not easy to deal with. I know he didnt do it. I met Rich when he was 17 & I was 28, he was my paper boy. We kissed for the first time in January, that was 8yrs ago we met. My 2 daughters chose him as their daddy. We will stand beside him no matter what. Society has gotten so twisted, they dont see that stero typing can ruin a person. I hope when hes released he'll see our love is true, and realize , whats hes been through can be forgiven and he has a family that adore him!

[tariy69]

Did you get married in prison? How did you post hes remain time to your post like that?

[marcsbaby]

Originally Posted by tariy69

Did you get married in prison? How did you post hes remain time to your post like that?

Hi...I am sending you a PM to answer your questions
~Katie

[sweetiepoo_34]

My finace was 17 when he was tried and convicted as an adult for agg.murder. He is serving 20-life for a crime that he didn't commit. He has so far served 12yrs. I have known him for 18yrs, and he is a very warm, kind person. If he wouldn't have maintained his innocence and took the plea bargain I think he would be out now! He said that he didn't take the plea because he didn't do it! He trusted that the truth would set him free! He has his first parole hearing in 2007. I pray the parole board will do the right thing and release him!The people that really did the crime have offered to testify for him if it can ever get back to court...but I don't think that is very likely. They are inmates also. I pray for him every day. He's lost half of his life for something he didn't do. The night of the crime he was at his sister's house, but the detectives didn't belive that, they said that because she is family that she was just lying for him. He was convicted as an accomplice, not a principle offender. How does one show remorse at a parole hearing for something they didn't have any part of?? Where is the justice? There are so many innocent human beings locked-up and treated less than human..while there are many real criminals out on the streets.

[Tepee]

All of your stories have put a better insight on my VO. We have know each other for the last 15years and up until the time we were 17 he was the sweetest kindest man I had ever met but, shortly there after he became very involved with gangs and heroine. He says he was just "young and dumb" but tell this day I will vouch and say that he was/is the dearest sweetest man I know. With the road he took it landed him in prison for 17 years for attempt of murder in the 2nd degree. It drives me crazy to know that our judicial system is punishing these "kids" with no remorse. Their lives will never be the same. I look forward to every visit, phone call and letter that I get from him. He is by far my "Prince Charming". Violent Offender is what he was labeled but what he is, is the love of my life.

[b_bop27]

I am with a vo , mine was convicted of murder when he was only 16, he's 28 now. he got 40 do 20. so it's been along road and still some to go. but he's my soulmate and i love him....

[Pfunksgirl]

Phil is considered a V.O and a repeat offender...but he has a heart of gold and only does things that he believes are right even if others dont.

[mrschris]

chris was first considered a violent offender because of resisting arrest and assaulting the police while they were trying to arrest him. he also got into a gang related fight and was charged with weapons possession (a bat i believe). he's considered a violent offender, i love him to death, however, if the charges were any more serious than fighting the police and getting into group fights (some were gang related, some were not)...i am not sure if i would have gotten into a relationship with him. he was also caught doing an insurance job on an abandoned gasoline station, conspiring to do an insurance job on an old apartment building (they tapped his family member...go figure), and he was caught in credit card fraud. for these charges, he's also considered a felon and arsonist. one of the the only things he hasn't been accused of is a sexual crime. one of his saving graces was that 10 of his arrests were before the age of 23, and about 8-10 of the charges on his jacket were caught inside of the prison (he's gang affiliated, and they had plenty of fights in jail), so i am able to accept him and love him unconditionally. this last arrest happened at age 32...and it's for the only crime he did not commit, eluding the police. this time the system caught him simply because they like the fact that he's a money maker for them. so by the age of 23, he was already labeled a felon/violent offender, arsonist, and gang member. on his jacket he is also marked as multi-lingual and a martial arts expert...so he's especially "watched". i know in my heart i'm able to love and be with him because none of his crimes were heinously violent, nor was anyone ever seriously wounded (hospitalized) or killed. and i'm proud of that fact. it could have been worse, and many times, he was fighting for his life. most of his offenses were done for money, he did insurance jobs, i believe the most expensive one topping 18,000.00, and he was involved in bankcard/check/credit card fraud. the rest were for fighting the police, being accused of fighting the police, or being caught in a fight, either in jail or on the streets. there are certain limits that i can't go beyond...and i'm thankful that he doesn't step over my boundaries, because he is one beautiful person, inside and out.

and go figure...he's gotten the most time (respectively) for the one crime he didn't commit. that's why we're fighting this either until we get time lowered to something more reasonable or we max out.

[cocogarcia]

WHAT???? You are with a man charged with murder, who worked it down to assault with a deadly weapon??!! That means he is saying he was carrying the weapon. Are you that comfortable with that?? You call it BS, but he did what he did, and you don't seem affected by the fact that he did not deny carrying the weapon in the scenario in which he was charged. You're ok with this?????

[theonlyoneforme]

Hi I am new to this whole PTO and I wish I would have found it months ago. I met my fiancee when I was at work, he told his friend thats my future wife watch his friend just laughed! anyway, when I met him he was bald (No offense to anyone) and he looked about 15 yrs old I was 32, his friend (girl) came over to me and said my friend wants to meet you I went over and said Hi, we talked for a minute and I asked him how old he was he was 25. I politely said nice to meet you and walked away, long story short haha he came back about 3 months later and the rest is history, when I met him he was in the process of going to court for Domestic Violence (2nd offense) he didn't tell me until a while after we started dating, anyway, he told me the story him and his x gf lived together and she told him she was preg. and then started staying out all night while he was watching her son, one night she came home stoned and drunk and he had been drinking also and it started she told him she was going to get "rid" of the bb no matter what and any way she wanted to, so they started fighting and her son was there, he tried to run out of the house and my bf stopped him, she ran out and saw a police officer they came and got him and charged him with DV, kidnapping (because he kept the kid IN the house- he was 6) and child abuse and neglect becauise her son was in the house. she didn't get anything and they both hit, he got 3 yrs probation, he was almost DONE with it and decided it would be a good idea to go out drinking and driving DUMB!! they tried to pull him over and he got scared and took off, when it finally ended he jumped out of the car laid on the ground w/ hands up and they hand cuffed him and picked him up, they asked him why he ran he said he wante dto get home to see his NEW baby (9mths) one of the cops started laughing and said yea well now you arent gonna and I think I will go see your wife is she HOT?? so he was upset ok mad, he told the cop to shut up and 5 cops jumped on him and beat his A** then charged him w/ assault on a police officer. Amazing how this system works!!! anyway he got 1 to 4 for attempted failure to stop at the request of Police. he got DUI,reckless driving,assault on PO, because of his past Violence he got denied Parole in July, so now we wait to see in June what will happen, he has a long record and he takes responsibility for what he has done, but I don't understand how they can just charge you with whatever they want just to see what will stick and what they can negotiate with??? I think if you are a women that is going to beat up on a guy and then get upset and call the police when he does it back, its not fair we (women) always want to be treated equal but not when it doesn't benefit us. Just my thought, I am sure I will hear an ear full for that anyway, just wanted to vent and tell you I have never seen the Violent side of him, I think it also depends on the person they ("violent one") are with, if there isn't a reason for it, it won't happen, Love can be scary but with the right person its a blessing!!! Thanks for listening

[theonlyoneforme]

let me clear up a couple things, he was with me when he got the probation, and the 9 month old is ours. Also my whole family is in law enforcement, so Christmas is really fun--- a house full of cops and my "bad guy" amazingly enough they love him and they support my decision to wait for him, but I cant talk to them about him because I get the "YOU MADE THAT CHOICE LECTURE"

[raysbabyg]

I could definatley relate "theonlyoneforme "Family in law enforcement and all." Only they can't stand my man. My baby is guilty of attempted murder and he does not deny it. He also has had a terrible upbringing and I wish I could change the past for him. He is angry and I know he deserves to be in prison for the next decade or more, and maybe that won't change him. But he is my sons father and this angry man is capable of love as well as deserving of it. I know him on a level book writers and movie producers can only dream of knowing a violent offender. Not only the Bad but the Good,Sad,loving Man. The man that doesn't cry or show affection unless he's in my arms. By the way I work with inmates everyday and I treat each one with respect. Becouse each one is a child of God. No matter what the crime. You would be amazed some of the awful inhumane ways these men and women went through childhood. Some of their parents ought to being doing their time. While they get some kind of treatment.

[Baby Bird]

My Old man is considered a violent offender with armed robberies hostage situations the works. Yet to our children and me he is the most sensative, caring, loving, gentle man I have come across. How could I not love him. The only scary aspect is that society may some day say he can never come come home. Now that would be a crime! I Don't know if I could survive that blow. I pray that day never comes.:shake:

[jstar+184475]

Yep, mine is definately considered a VO, but i don't judge anyone by the same BS rules that our criminal system does-it's all about the person, or it should be anyways. Besides, i know being with him means i'll always be safe, i love my "thug"! lol!

[MyMenace]

I have a best friend who has been out only 10 months after a 8 year sentence; and my man who is still in serving the last 8 months of his 12 year term. Both of them are considered VO. The one on parole now is considered a extreme high risk parolee because he has 2 strikes on violent offenses. (CA) Both of them are teddy bears and neither has ever given me cause to concern! In fact if Im mad they're more wary of me than I am of them! *haha* Ive seen my friend lose his temper and even then I can put him in his place and then I might be labeled a VO too! Violent Offenses in most cases are individual events that certainly do not define the person. Everyone has the potential to be dubbed Violent! But I love both of my VO's just the same!!

[MurphyGirl]

My hubby was charged with and found guilty of 2 counts of aggravated murder. He could have been executed but the jury voted 7 to 5 for life without the possibility of parole. I nearly fainted when I heard that news that it was so close.
I've been thru it all with my man, I've had death threats against me for staying with my guy, ppl vandelizing my car, half of my reletives won't speak to me and some of them will even leave the room when I enter! then we have the "oh, don't leave your purse next to her crowd"...that's almost laughable because I'd rather cut off my own arm than steal from anyone!!!
Despite all of what I've gone thru i would do it all over again with my guy....yeah sure i'd rather none of this happened, I'd liked to have lived a normal life, but if a normal life means living it without my hubby, forget it!! As my siggy says, I'd rather live in his world than live without him in mine!

penwife

[OneOfMany]

Originally Posted by MyMenace

...Violent Offenses in most cases are individual events that certainly do not define the person. Everyone has the potential to be dubbed Violent! ...

That describes R.'s crime in a nutshell -- and from reading "you guys's" posts probably your's, too.

Hell, it wasn't like he went out and committed the crime because he was bored and nothin' good on TV. If THAT was the provocation, well, yes, he could be considered a "violent offender."

In answer to the thread, yes, he's considered a VO.

[flychic3312000]

iM IN LOVE WITH A VIOLENT FELONY OFFENDER TOO!hE'S BEING CHARGED WITH 4 COUNTS OF ROBBERY IN DA FIRST!i JUST HAPPENED TO BE THE DRIVER OF THE CAR AND THEY CHARGED ME WITH THE SAME CHARGES AS HIM!iM NOW CONSIDERED A VIOLENT OFFENDER i ONLY DROVE!